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New Vlog up on YouTube   Leave a comment

It’s about not being perfect, which is ok.  I know I’m not.  I proved it in this video.  At 1:30 into the video I accidentally said that 8 days of bad eating isn’t going to override 2 days of good.  Obviously, I meant it the other way around that 2 days of good eating won’t override the 8 days of bad.  Why did I leave it in there?  The overall point of the video is that it’s ok to make mistakes.  It’s the majority of how we live our lives that matter, not the momentary mistakes.  That one little misspeak doesn’t make the whole video bad in my view so I left it in.  So here’s the video.  Like and Subscribe on YouTube if you’re so inclined.  Comment here or there if you have agreements, or disagreements, and/or ways to improve my videos.  Even just topics you’d like to hear me speak on.  Enjoy the video and have a great day.

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Quick Thought   Leave a comment

Today I was driving into Athens when my car drifted a little too far toward the center of the road.  They have reflective lane dividers here in Alabama that make seeing your lane at night way easier.  They also give you an audible and physical prompt that you’ve drifted too far by thumping your tires.

The second I felt the thumping I instinctively centered my car in the lane.  I also told myself “learn to drive, stupid.”  Of course I was joking with myself.  I’m perfectly aware of how to drive.  I’ve been doing it for over three decades now.  And I know I’m not stupid.  But what’s the harm in a little self deprecating humor, right?

Well here’s the harm.  While you have a sense of humor, your brain doesn’t.  Your subconscious mind takes things quite literally.  So when you make a silly mistake and think to yourself “idiot” it’s all well and fine that YOU realize you’re just kidding, but your subconscious believes that you believe you’re an idiot.  And it stores that away for later.

Most things we do in life are the result of pre-programing that our subconscious mind acts on.  So think about that.  If you’ve been, even unintentionally, feeding into your subconscious that you’re fat, or stupid, or not worthy, it operates under the impression that those things are true.  And we wonder why we find success in life so elusive.

So a little self deprecating humor here and there isn’t going to kill you.  If you do make an oopsy feel free to yuck it up a bit.  But pay close attention to how often.  The predominate thoughts in your mind should be nurturing and uplifting.  They should be positive and optimistic.

On a side note, keep in mind that your subconscious doesn’t understand the concept of negating either.  You might think you’re being positive and reinforcing success by saying in your mind “I am not capable of failure” but what your subconscious hears is “I am capable of failure” because it drops the word “not” out.  Another example is instead of hearing “I don’t miss a chance to exercise” your subconscious drops the “don’t” and hears that you do miss chances to exercise.

So be mindful what you program your subconscious with.  I am a success.  I accomplish what I set out to do.  I learn things easily.  I am smart.  I am capable.  I am loveable.  Whatever you program into your subconscious is what your subconscious uses to run your life.  So keep the thoughts positive and happy, and have a great day.

01/14/19 Weigh-In   Leave a comment

Time for the weekly weigh in.  I noticed while looking back over the past few weeks I may have missed one or two.  I’m sorry for that.  You guys have been supportive of me on my journey and I want to keep you up to date as much as possible on it.  In the future I will endeavor to do better.  On to the numbers.

This week I weighed in at 262.6 pounds.  Last week I weighed in at 267.0 pounds for a total loss of 4.4 pounds.  Wow.  That’s quite a weekly drop.  Considering the up and down weigh ins over the past few weeks I’m hoping this means my body has figured things out and I’m back on track to losing consistently again.

My muscle mass was 28.6% this week, and 28.2% last week.  In pounds that’s 75.1 this week and 75.3 last week.  So a slight drop in muscle mass.  Which is somewhat expected considering the overall weight loss.

For body fat I am 34.9% this week and was 35.7% last week.  In pounds that’s 91.6 this week and 95.3 last week.  So 3.7 pounds of fat lost.  That’s a lot for one week.

Which brings me back to a concern I’ve had over the past few weeks as the scale has gone up and down.  I’m wondering if there isn’t something wrong with the scale.  I like the scale and all but if it isn’t giving accurate measurements week to week it isn’t of much use to me.  When I first started I got this one mainly because of the fact that it could handle my weight.  Most scales topped out at 350 pounds, just under what my actual weight turned out to be.  So I looked for a scale that could go up to 400 pounds, which I was sure I was under.  I’m going to keep an eye on things but if they seem to be off over the next few weigh ins I’ll consider getting a new scale.

I’ve been on vacation this week so I was worried about closing the rings on my Apple Watch.  Happy to say that concern was unwarranted.  I have closed all three rings every day this week.  And I accomplished that by getting in 3 exercise sessions a day.  Usually two walks and an extra more strenuous one like maybe jump roping.

Food wise I’m doing well.  When I fast I don’t feel hungry.  I’ve increased my water intake which has helped a lot.  Feel much better.  I also have made sure to keep up better on my electrolytes.

Meditation wise is pretty much the usual story.  Slow but sure improvements mainly in quality.  The effect on my mood has been noticeable.  Of course that could also be due to being on vacation.

I’ve put in for a few more jobs.  I’ve moved forward with the dispatcher job but haven’t heard back yet on the others.

All in all it’s been a great week.  I have most of this week off before having to return to work.  It’s getting closer to decision making time on when my exact last day will be.  I’ve found out on the dispatch job the interview period will be close to the end of the month so I’ve considered working one more full pay period at my current job so I’m not left in a lurch.  Also that gives me a little time to talk to people here who work for companies I’ve applied for to see what’s going on with my application or how I might improve my odds of getting jobs with them.  But one way or another I’ll be moving on to greener pastures soon.

That wraps it up for this weeks update.  I hope you’re having a great day and I’ll see you next week for the next update and tomorrow for the next blog.  Peace.

Quick Thought   Leave a comment

Remember when you were a kid and you had climbed a little higher than you should?  So high you couldn’t get yourself back down.  An adult, maybe a parent, came out and found you in your predicament and held their arms out to you and said “jump.”  Of course actually jumping was a little easier said than done.  Even though part of you trusted the adult to catch you, the same fear that kept you from descending by yourself also made you a little worried that they wouldn’t be able to stop the fall should you actually jump.

The problem was you didn’t have faith.  As an adult the equivalent might be wall climbing at the gym.  If the wall is high and you’re not very experienced they’ll put you in a harness for safety reasons and up you’ll climb.  If anything happens you know you can safely jump away from the wall and the harness will keep you safe.  Funny thing about that is you still don’t have faith.  You have knowledge.  You logically know that the rope is designed to carry your weight.  What you’re making is a scientific assessment, not a leap of faith.

Faith requires true belief in something that you can’t otherwise know to be true.  It’s jumping without the rope, or outstretched arms, to catch you knowing you’ll still be fine.  The only way you can truly believe is to accept it on belief alone.  Any doubt means a lack of faith.  This is important to know because that’s the level of belief you need for the law of attraction.

It’s why, despite most everyone you know dreaming about being rich, probably none of them are.  I dreamed of getting fit for the longest time.  Visualized it in my head often how great my life would be when I had bulging biceps instead of a bulging belly.   But for the longest time I didn’t get into shape.  My dreams of being better weren’t enough.  And then I started the ketogenic diet.  I can’t explain how, but I just knew this was the one.  I had faith it would work. And sure enough a year later I’m down 85 pounds.

I’ve stated before that how the law of attraction works isn’t really important.  And I still believe that.  Whether it’s self-fulfilling prophecy, a beneficent god, or a magical energy field doesn’t matter.  What does matter is for it to work you truly have to believe.  You have to have faith.  You must be certain in your mind it will happen.  That’s when it will.

So in the days to come think about what you really want to come into your life.  Be it money, or love, or health, whatever.  Just know it’s what you want.  And then take the next step to attract it into your life.  Truly believe that it is already yours.  That it’s a certainty you’ll have it.  It might come to you as a blessing from above.  It might be that you’ll become a vibrational match and you’ll attract it into your life.  Or maybe you’ll just finally do the things you know you need to do to make it happen, without any supernatural help.

However it happens, if you have faith, it will certainly happen.  Maybe not in a few minutes, or hours, or days, but it will happen.  Your faith will see to it that it does.  Have a great day.

You’ve Been There The Whole Time   2 comments

No matter who you can think of, nobody has spent more time with you than you.  Even dear old Mom hasn’t.  Sure, the two of you hung out together for around 9 months at the beginning of things for you.  She was definitely there for your birth.  But from that point forward it’s highly unlikely she’s been there every moment of your life.  No matter who it is, even if they were there the moment you were born and have been around in your life since, hasn’t been there for everything.

Why do I mention this?  Because we get a lot of advice from well-meaning, well-intentioned people, including dear old Mom.  They give this advice based on their best understanding of us.  But try as they might, they’ll never understand you as well as you can.  And sometimes the people giving the unsolicited advice aren’t well-meaning or well-intentioned.

You see, baring some sort of issue related to amnesia, you’re the only one with all the facts of your life.  More importantly, even if there was someone who has managed to be in the same space as you all your life, they still don’t have the insights of what has gone on in your head.  How did each and every one of those moments make you feel?  What impact did they have on your drive and focus?  What things did you consider impactful and what things did you dismiss out of hand?

All of that relevant information is contained in just one individual.  You.  So answer me this.  If nobody else has as great an understanding of you as you do, why do you hold their opinion of you higher than your own?

When someone tells you that you can’t do something, how do they know that better than you?  When someone tries to downplay your dreams as unreasonable, who are they to say it?  Or when someone cruelly tells you that you aren’t good enough, or worthy enough, or pretty enough why would you listen to what they think about you over what you know?

Why indeed.  The answer of course is you shouldn’t.  If you’re happy with who you are don’t worry about what other people think of you.  They don’t know you like you know you.  If you have a dream that others tell you is silly, who cares?  It isn’t their dream, so why would they be as invested in it as you are.  If you’re happy with the way you look and how you feel, never be swayed by the opinions of others who try to tell you otherwise.  Even friends and family who have the best of intentions for you.

Because in the end why would you care about the opinion of someone who is, regardless of intention, trying to bring you down?  You’re a light in this world, never forget that.  So don’t worry about the fog of negativity people like that try to shroud you in.  Burn brightly like you know you can and be a beacon to others.  Have a great and bright day.

Be Of Service By Listening   Leave a comment

I’ve mentioned before about the importance of being of service to others.  I think it’s one of the requirements of getting something out of life.  Kind of like karma if you will.  How can you expect good things to come into your life if you haven’t increased your worthiness via good deeds of your own?

I mentioned a few ways that cost absolutely nothing in which you could be of service.  Holding a door open for someone, or just giving them a smile when they look like they could use a little happiness.  There are many other ways that are of no cost to you as well.  If your neighbor is sick or elderly mowing their lawn for them (or shoveling snow this time of year for some) is a free way to help that is sure to go over well.  Perhaps you’re good with managing your money, but know a friend who struggles in that area.  Why not sit down with them and help them to better understand how to budget and save?

By far though the best no cost way of being of service to others is just to listen.  I went to Starbucks yesterday morning and there was an elderly gentleman there sitting by himself, drinking his coffee.  I sat down in the comfy chair beside his to enjoy my Iced Coffee and read more of my book.  He politely said hi, and I smiled and said hi back.  I opened my iPad Kindle app and was about to read when he asked me about my thoughts on the current government shutdown.

I’m sure he had noticed the iPad.  It was clear what my plan was.  But he asked anyway.  Why?  He wanted to interact with someone.  I could have politely dodged and went back to reading.  I could have been direct and said I came to read and not to talk.  But it was clear the older gentleman was desiring a conversation.  So I chose to be of service to him instead.

My book isn’t going anywhere.  I’ve bought it and it’ll be waiting on the app for later.  He had a need right now.  And it was clear when I replied that he was happy I wanted to talk, too.  We chatted for about 20 minutes and then he noticed his ride had arrived.  He politely thanked me for the conversation and left.  After he parted I went back to my book.

Now for you it might not be the older gentleman at the coffee shop.  It might be a coworker on break.  Or a person on the bus.  The lady in the grocery line behind you.

Then again it might be more.  Maybe a friend or family member has had a bad day.  Or maybe it’s a bad week, or month, or life.  Be of service by listening.  Sometimes people just need to vent.  They want to be heard by a sympathetic ear.  Often we want to help further by giving our take on the subject.  Or advice on how we think the situation could be made better.  I’d encourage you to be of more service to them by listening, and only listening.  If they ask for your advice or guidance by all means give it.  But if they don’t just listen.

Active listening is even better.  Even if you already know that you heard them correctly repeat back what they’ve said to insure you’ve heard correctly.  It lets them know you’re listening.  If there’s a long pause ask them how they feel about the situation.  If you need to speak, keep it brief, and preferably in the form of a question.  That lets them know you’re interested in hearing more, and also that the conversation is about them.  That is being of service.

So in the next few days look for ways to be of service by listening.  It’s easy for you, costs you nothing, and you might find yourself rewarded right away.  I had a pleasant conversation  with the older gentleman who smiled as he walked away.  He was happy.  And that made me happy.  Karma in action.  Have a great day.

New Vlog Up On YouTube   Leave a comment

It’s about meditation.  A simple and easy guide to starting a meditation practice.  After all if you’re considering meditation you probably want to reduce the stress in your life not add to it.  Here’s a quick guide with a overivew of what you need to do to start a successful practice.  Have a great day.