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Archive for February 2019

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I have a friend who has a favorite statement, “It is what it is.”  The phrase is certainly not his creation, nor is it unique to him, but I would definitely call it his catch phrase.  It’s his go to response when something bad happens.  And it’s a very stoic response.  Good, bad, or ugly a situation is what it is and you just have to accept it as is.

Or do you?  While I appreciate the sentiment, that there’s no use getting mad about a situation that has already happened, it’s not entirely true.  A better way of phrasing the thought would be “It is what you make it.”

Viewing things as “It is what it is” suggests that you have absolutely no control in the situation.  It’s totally beyond you.  But in all situations you always have one absolute level of control, and that’s how you respond to it.

For example, you just got off of work and are ready to head home when you go out to your car and one of the tires is flat.  “It is what it is” reminds you that getting mad about the flat tire doesn’t fix it.  “It is what it is” reminds you that being mad won’t make changing the tire any easier.  In fact, getting mad could make it worse.  Certainly there isn’t anything wrong with responding to the situation with an “It is what it is” attitude and just fixing the flat in peace.

But what if you had an “It is what you make it” attitude?  Instead of this being a flat you just have to take care of, you could view it as a way to test your life skills.  You don’t change the tire very often so now you get to take a moment to show that you are self-sufficient.  You could ask a coworker to stick around and keep you company while you change the tire.  It is what you made it, a chance to socialize with your coworker.  If your coworker can’t stay, is there some problem you’ve been meaning to devote some time to?  If it is what you make it, this time just became thoughtful time to work on that problem.

While accepting things for what they are in an emotionally even way is a good thing, why not choose to take control instead?  It is what it is can be good, but why settle for good?  Choose it to be what you make it to be and make it great.  Have a great day.  Peace.

 

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Weekly Vlog Up on YouTube 2019/02/20   Leave a comment

This week’s vlog is up.  It’s on tracking your weight loss and why going strictly by the numbers isn’t the best approach.  In it I discuss other options for keeping track of your progress.  Check it out.  Like and leave a comment to let me know how you’re doing.  If you dislike the video or disagree with anything I said then leave a comment so we can discuss it.  Subscribe and click the notification bell to be immediately notified every time I post a video to my YouTube.  Have a great week.  Peace.

Weekly Weigh In 2019-02-18   Leave a comment

I have not one, but two videos this week.  The first is my weekly update.  The second is a thank you video.  I’ll put them both below.  Great progress this week and I’m grateful to be over 500 views now.  Thank you all so much for that. Leave a like and a comment on the video to let me know how I’m doing.  Subscribe and click the notification bell if you want to be immediately notified every time I upload a video.  I hope you’re week went as well as mine and I’ll see you next week for the next check in.  Peace.

Quick Thank You   Leave a comment

So I’ve been tracking how my YouTube channel has been doing in terms of views and minutes watched.  I have a little spreadsheet I made just for that purpose.  And this morning when I entered the numbers I saw that I had reached a happy milestone.  I’ve gotten over 500 views.

I started my YouTube channel last October.  It’s just barely over 4 months old so that’s about 125 views a month.  I’m very happy with that number.  Some channels may be growing way faster than that, but I also know that a lot of channels get started and never make it to 500 views.  So it’s a good first big hurdle to have gotten over.

At the beginning of the year I decided to recommit to a full year of producing content for the channel at a minimum of 1 vlog per week.  Now I’ve decided it’ll be 2 per week as I’ve started doing my weekly update in video form.  If I manage to get a review video in at least every other week that would mean over 100 more videos to go before I make the final decision about the channel.

But honestly I think I’ve already decided.  Every week the channel starts growing a little faster.  The number of subscribers keeps slowly increasing.  And at a certain point I’m guessing things will start increasing faster and faster and I’ll reach more and more people.  In the end though, come December 31st if I still have one subscriber following me I think I’ll keep going because as long as I’m helping someone it just feels good to do.

I really hope that I’m reaching a lot more than 1 person of course, but even 1 will be enough.  There’s 10 more months and some change to go and I look forward to spending it sharing with you guys who’ve made this journey worthwhile for me.  I thank you for your support in watching my videos and following this blog.  In a little over a month this blog will hit one year since I restarted it and I’ll do a thank you post and recap at that time.

To end this one I’ll thank you again real quick.  If you have any suggestions or comments about the YouTube channel or this one, feel free to leave them here or there.  I hope you’re having a great day.  I know I did starting it out with that great news.  I look forward to seeing you soon.  Peace.

Quick Thought   Leave a comment

When we see our friend after they’ve been to the salon for a new haircut we will often take a moment to compliment them on their new look.  When someone we know gets a new car we’ll show all sorts of interest in it and tell them what a great purchase they’ve made.  If we haven’t seen an acquaintance for a while and they appear to be more fit than when we saw them last time we’ll ask them if they’ve lost some weight or if they’ve been working out.

When it comes to the people we see regularly we take time to compliment them and build them up.  We even do this with people we don’t see very often but are acquainted with.  Sadly, the one person we don’t generally pay this courtesy to is ourselves.

Why don’t we do this for the man (or woman) in the mirror?  What’s so wrong about taking a moment to compliment ourselves on how nice our hair looks today?  If we got something new at a great price, why can’t we be proud of ourselves about it?  When we’ve been on point about our diet and exercise and the results are showing, is there anything wrong with taking notice and patting ourselves on the back?

We’ve been told since we were children that the answer is yes.  It’s bad.  It’s vain.  It’s self-serving and therefore wrong.  But is it really?  Like everything its a matter of moderation.  If you’re spending all day looking in the mirror admiring yourself, of course that’s not good.  But a quick “looking good” in the morning when you’re looking good is just showing confidence.  That’s a good thing.  Being proud of yourself for making a wise purchase isn’t egotistical, it’s prudent.  We should want to be shrewd in our business deals.  Letting yourself know that you’re pleased with the success you’ve had isn’t self serving, it’s reinforcing good behaviour.  Behaviour you should want to continue with.

So next time you see yourself in the mirror go ahead and be happy.  You’re a good person and you deserve it.  Smile and remind yourself you have a right to be happy.  Be proud of yourself like you would be for a good friend who was succeeding.  It isn’t wrong to be proud of yourself.  It should only be worrisome if you can’t.  Have a great day.  Peace.

Are You Really Too Busy?   Leave a comment

Have you ever scheduled a gym session in for the day and by day’s end it just didn’t happen?  Did you ever plan on meditating to start your day but by the time you got to work you realized that instead of clearing your mind first thing it actually just slipped your mind?

We have a lot of rationalizations for these scheduling shortcomings.  You got out of work late so you didn’t have time to stop by the gym on the way home.  Or you got home and now you have other things to do so you just don’t think you’ll be able to squeeze time in for meditating.  Or there are a backlog of other obligations you need to attend to and the gym and meditation room just aren’t high enough on the list to make the cut.

You really believe that you want to do these activities, if only there was time.  But try as you might you just don’t seem to be able to find any room in your schedule to accommodate these activities.  If only there were more time in the day.

Is that really true though?  Is it absolutely impossible to work in anything more to your schedule?

Ask yourself this.  What if, instead of meditating for half an hour, you were told that you’d be put in a room with your favorite celebrity for that same amount of time?  I bet your schedule would be empty enough to fit that in.

Or if your hour of gym time, that you couldn’t possibly make today because your booked, suddenly become an hour alone with your fantasy crush.  Would you text your crush to tell them that you just can’t spare the time?  Probably not.

In reality we know that we could make the time for the activities if we were truly motivated to do so, we just aren’t.  If you allow yourself to be fooled by the excuse that you just can’t find the time then you never look hard enough to find the real reason you don’ t do these beneficial activities.

So spend a little time considering why you can’t make that time.  There are many reasons why people can’t find the time, but the only one that matters is the reason you’re not finding it.  When you get your reason take out a piece of paper and draw a line down the center.  On one side list the ways this reason is benefiting you, and on the other a list of how it’s hurting you.  Keep the list with you and when you find that you “don’t have the time” to meditate or go to the gym take out your list and read it.  I’m guessing the list of benefits won’t take much of any time to read, but the list of hurts will.

Hopefully when you’ve had a moment to see how your “reason” is affecting your life you’ll be motivated to get to the gym or clear some time to clear your mind.  Do this often enough and you’ll get into the habit of going to the gym and meditating.  And once it’s a habit you’ll easily find the time for it, no matter how busy your schedule really becomes.  Have a great day.  Peace.

Weekly Vlog Up On YouTube   Leave a comment

This week’s vlog is about time and how it relates to your self-improvement journey, with plenty of nerdy references to everyone’s favorite Time Lord Doctor Who.  If you have the time give it a watch.  Like if you enjoy it.  Leave a comment telling me what you think.  Also if you have any suggestions on how I can make these vlogs better leave a comment on that, too.  Subscribe and click the notification bell if you want to be immediately notified every time I upload a video.  Have a great week.  Peace.