Archive for February 2019

Weekly Vlog up on YouTube   Leave a comment

Here is this week’s vlog.  It’s about letting the Universe help you by listening and allowing.  Leave a like if you enjoy the video.  Feel free to comment here or there about what you think.  Agree or disagree.  Subscribe and click the notification bell if you want to be immediately notified every time I post a video on YouTube.  Have a great week.  Peace.

Interview Tomorrow   Leave a comment

So I’m going for another interview tomorrow at 1pm my time.  It’s definitely a job I’d like, which is a plus.  I’m guessing like the last interview I talked about, though, I won’t know for sure how I did right after the interview.  They have a few people to interview so I’m guessing that even if I do well I won’t be offered a job for a few days. I’m good with that. There is a similar position at another company that I’m interested in as well, so I’d like to have both interviews done before getting an offer.

Speaking of the last interview, here we are weeks later and I still haven’t heard anything back.  It’s easy when you don’t hear back to assume that you didn’t get the job or that you didn’t interview well, but it’s important to always keep in mind that they are only assumptions.  Until you get confirmation you were passed over you just don’t know.  And even if you do get passed over it doesn’t necessarily mean you interviewed poorly.  I’ll give an example.

Years ago at my current company I applied for a promotion.  At first there was only going to be one promotional slot and I knew I had some good competition for the job.  The day of the interview came and I gave it my best.  They passed along at the end of the interview that because they did have such a good talent pool they were actually going to promote two people.  I left the room feeling really good.  I felt I had answered all the questions well and carried myself with great confidence.  Plus I now knew my chances of getting the job had just doubled.

Alas, a few days later, I got a call from the head of the promotion board telling me that I wasn’t chosen.  I thanked her for considering me and asked if I might get feedback on how she felt I could improve for the next opportunity.  She told me that, as I had felt, I had interviewed very well and there wasn’t much room for improvement.  They just had numerous, highly qualified candidates and they had to pick two out of a larger group of very deserving applicants.  She told me the differences were minor and shouldn’t be looked upon as suggesting I wasn’t a good choice.  I was highly encouraged to apply when the position opened again in the future.

The head of the promotion board was a straight shooter, and definitely not one to needlessly flatter someone just to make them feel better.  So I knew the feedback was genuine.  And the ones who did get the jobs were excellent choices.  There was no shame in losing out to them.  I had done a great job, it just wasn’t my time.

Which is why it’s important to stay positive about these things, even if you do get some bad news that you didn’t get it.  There’s no reason to assume the worst before hand.  Plus, sometimes the Universe just sees a better option for you around the corner.  Which is what happened in my case.

About a week after finding out that I had not gotten the promotion a totally new position opened at my location.  A position I very much wanted, well more than the one I had just been passed over on.  Had I not been passed over, though, I probably wouldn’t have applied for the new position.  Which would have been a shame as I got it and really enjoyed doing that job.  The Universe was right, it was better I had waited.

So I go into tomorrow’s interview with that same mindset.  I’ll do my best answering the questions.  I’ll answer the questions with confidence.  And when the interview is over I’ll wait and see in patience.  Maybe I’ll get the job.  Maybe I won’t get that one, but I’ll still go on to get the other similar position at the other company.  Either way I just trust that the Universe will put me where I need to be when I need to be there.

So whether or not you have an upcoming interview or other life choice, I hope you carry that same mindset with you.  Trust that things are as they are meant to be, knowing the Universe has your back.  Have a great day tomorrow.  Peace.

Weekly Weigh In Vlog 2019-02-25   Leave a comment

Here are the results of this week’s weigh in.  Let me know what you think.  Like if you enjoy the video.  Leave a comment letting me know how I did, or how I could do better.  Subscribe and click the bell if you want to be immediately notified every time I upload a video to my YouTube channel.  Have a great week.  Peace.

The Five People You Associate With Most   Leave a comment

It’s a concept that has been around for quite some time.  You’re the sum of the five people you hang around with the most.  It isn’t an exact science.  You aren’t the literal sum of those people.  If you showed me five people I couldn’t calculate specifically what the man, or woman, hanging out with them would be like.  But overall it is a true concept.

If you hang around with people who think “this is it, this is all that I ever will be” what are the chances that you’ll be a person with goals and ambitions?  Not very high.  Even if you started out without that limiting belief, how long would it take, being reminded daily by your five that “this is it”, before you just came to accept it as true?

If your five just likes sitting around all day and watching movies on the tv, or perhaps playing Xbox or Playstation, what do you think your waistline is likely to measure in at?  Do you think that if you suggested that you should all go out for a walk that would go over really well?  I’m guessing you wouldn’t have many takers.  So instead you just sit there with them and do as they do.

If your five likes to hang out after work at a local diner for grub and smokes, are you going to wear a mask and eat a salad?  Unlikely, since we associate with the group we hang with.  I used to do this.  I didn’t smoke myself, but sitting at a booth when everyone else does made that more of a semantic than a fact.  And I certainly wasn’t eating healthy, and it showed.

Whoever your five are, and however they behave, we all have an inherent desire to fit in.  So when the five does something unhealthy, we do it with them.  When the five engages in negativity, we get negative too.  If the five assumes the worst in every situation, we don’t boldly stand up and say “Not me, not today.  I’m thinking positive!”  No, we acquiesce to the group mindset and start planning for the worst.

So the five we hang out with are vitally important to our life and well-being.  Who are your five?

Are they your coworkers?  We spend 40 hours a week with these people, not counting thinking about work on the way in and decompressing from work on the way home.  Are your coworkers happy?  Do they look at the future brightly?  Or do they go on about how work sucks?  Do they spend the 40 hours wishing they didn’t work there?  Do they gossip about other workers behind their backs?

Are they friends?  Would they spend all day staring at a wall if they could?  Do they assume the worst in others?  Do they sit around all day engaging in frivolous tasks?  Or do they go out for hikes?  Do they spend time looking for ways to make life better?  Do they find the best in others because they’re always looking for the best?

Are they your family?  Have they told you that your family is at a certain station in life and that’s just how it is for you, too?  When you tell them your plans do they offer criticisms and limiting beliefs?  Or do they help you find a way to make your plans happen?  When you tell them of your long-term goals do they gleefully dream big with you, or remind you that you need to be realistic?  And by realistic they mean keep your aim low so as not to disappoint yourself.

Here’s the thing.  It doesn’t matter who your five is.  And it doesn’t matter why those five are the way they are.  The commonality in everything I mentioned above is you.  No matter who those five are, you are chosing to associate with them.  Are those five building you up or knocking you down?  Do they nurture, or neutralize?  Are they your cheerleaders?  Or are they the millstone tied around your neck?

When it comes to coworkers, friends, and family you have the ultimate decision of who you spend your time with.  You have to decide what’s most important.  You have to decide who is most important.  If the people in your life right now are not there to help you become the best version of yourself, is that their fault, or yours?  If you work in a negative environment then you need to decide.  Which is more important, happiness or your paycheck?  I’d rather earn less and smile more.  If your friends are sedentary or have negative attitudes, the blame lies in your choice to be with them instead of people who will lift you up and make you whole.

Even when it comes to the big one, family, you still have to decide.  I’m not saying it’ll be easy, or fun, but it’s necessary.  If your family has bought into the notion that life is drudgery, and you have to accept your meager status, you have to choose to leave or stay.  That’s on you.  I’m not saying never see your family again, just make sure that you spend the majority of your time with a new five that makes you better, healthier, and happier.  Who knows, maybe when you do go back and spend time with the fam and they see what you’ve become some of them might jump the ship to the happy boat, too.

The key is to remember that you aren’t being selfish taking care of yourself.  Refusing to spend time with negative old friends or family who bring you down isn’t self-centered, it’s self-preserving.  It all goes back to the concept of you can’t fill a cup from an empty pitcher.  Chosing who you associate with wisely is about putting yourself first, which isn’t a bad thing no matter how many times you’ve been told it is.  When you make yourself whole first you’re a better person for everyone whose life you’ll touch because you’ll be touching those lives in a positive way.  And that’s not a good thing, that’s a great thing.

So spend some time considering who your five are and start making choices.  If they aren’t the five that’s best for you start thinking about who your ideal five would be and get to looking for people who fill that bill.  It’s good for you, it’s good for them, and eventually that’ll make things good for everyone.  All because you didn’t just choose, you chose wisely.  Have a great week.  Peace.

Quick Thought   Leave a comment

I have a friend who has a favorite statement, “It is what it is.”  The phrase is certainly not his creation, nor is it unique to him, but I would definitely call it his catch phrase.  It’s his go to response when something bad happens.  And it’s a very stoic response.  Good, bad, or ugly a situation is what it is and you just have to accept it as is.

Or do you?  While I appreciate the sentiment, that there’s no use getting mad about a situation that has already happened, it’s not entirely true.  A better way of phrasing the thought would be “It is what you make it.”

Viewing things as “It is what it is” suggests that you have absolutely no control in the situation.  It’s totally beyond you.  But in all situations you always have one absolute level of control, and that’s how you respond to it.

For example, you just got off of work and are ready to head home when you go out to your car and one of the tires is flat.  “It is what it is” reminds you that getting mad about the flat tire doesn’t fix it.  “It is what it is” reminds you that being mad won’t make changing the tire any easier.  In fact, getting mad could make it worse.  Certainly there isn’t anything wrong with responding to the situation with an “It is what it is” attitude and just fixing the flat in peace.

But what if you had an “It is what you make it” attitude?  Instead of this being a flat you just have to take care of, you could view it as a way to test your life skills.  You don’t change the tire very often so now you get to take a moment to show that you are self-sufficient.  You could ask a coworker to stick around and keep you company while you change the tire.  It is what you made it, a chance to socialize with your coworker.  If your coworker can’t stay, is there some problem you’ve been meaning to devote some time to?  If it is what you make it, this time just became thoughtful time to work on that problem.

While accepting things for what they are in an emotionally even way is a good thing, why not choose to take control instead?  It is what it is can be good, but why settle for good?  Choose it to be what you make it to be and make it great.  Have a great day.  Peace.

 

Weekly Vlog Up on YouTube 2019/02/20   Leave a comment

This week’s vlog is up.  It’s on tracking your weight loss and why going strictly by the numbers isn’t the best approach.  In it I discuss other options for keeping track of your progress.  Check it out.  Like and leave a comment to let me know how you’re doing.  If you dislike the video or disagree with anything I said then leave a comment so we can discuss it.  Subscribe and click the notification bell to be immediately notified every time I post a video to my YouTube.  Have a great week.  Peace.

Weekly Weigh In 2019-02-18   Leave a comment

I have not one, but two videos this week.  The first is my weekly update.  The second is a thank you video.  I’ll put them both below.  Great progress this week and I’m grateful to be over 500 views now.  Thank you all so much for that. Leave a like and a comment on the video to let me know how I’m doing.  Subscribe and click the notification bell if you want to be immediately notified every time I upload a video.  I hope you’re week went as well as mine and I’ll see you next week for the next check in.  Peace.