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Weekly Weigh In 2019-04-15   Leave a comment

This week’s weigh in is up on YouTube.  Great gains (or losses I guess) made this week.  Last week my weight had gone up quite a bit, and I did manage to lose most of it again this week. Made some gains in happiness, too.  Figured some issues out I was having with exercise.  All around a pretty good week.  Let me know what you think of it with a comment here or there.  If you enjoyed the video please leave a Like.  Subscribe and click the notification bell if you want to be immediately notified every time I post a video to YouTube.  Thanks for all the support.  I hope you’re having a great week.  Peace.

Knowing When To Say When.   2 comments

We’re all familiar with the phrase “nobody likes a quitter.”  It’s said like it’s an absolute.  Under no situations should you quit otherwise you’ll risk alienating yourself from others.  Of course we understand there are exceptions.  You won’t be looked down upon if you quit smoking.  In that case being a quitter is fine.  Mainly it refers to tasks you start that you should, in “nobody”s opinion be able to complete.

Well I’m not a big believer in “nobody likes a quitter.”  I’m more inclined to side with another common phrase “know when to say when.”  You see there are many occasions when knowing when to quit is actually a good thing for you.

Anybody who has watched Wheel of Fortune should get this.  How many times have you seen a contestant with a decent amount of money spin the wheel again because there is still money to be made.  And how many times has that decision ended in ruin when they hit the bankrupt wedge on the wheel.  That person didn’t know when to say when.

Now I’m assuming in most people’s lives the Wheel of Fortune example won’t be particularly relevant consider the very small percentage of the population that winds up on the show.  So what would be a more relevant example for the average person?  I’ll give two that happened to me in the last week.

First, I was doing a jump rope workout and it was going pretty well.  And then I tweaked my left ankle.  And that’s my “bad ankle.”  I was born club footed there and the surgery to correct it has left it a little weak.  That makes it easy to tweak.  Now the “nobody likes a quitter” group would tell me to cowboy up.  No pain, no gain.  But in reality I was feeling pain for a reason.  Now sometimes I feel the pain and it goes right away, so I kept going for a little longer.  But the pain didn’t go away.  So I knew it was time to stop.  I quit because I listened to my body.  It was telling me enough.  If I kept going, which I could have done, I risked making it worse.  And then I might be affecting other areas of my life if I couldn’t walk because I injured my ankle.  I knew it was time to say when.

Second, I fast regularly.  It isn’t a problem for me.  Usually it isn’t, anyway.  But the other day I felt something I don’t usually feel anymore.  Hunger.  Being keto adapted my body can generally find all the energy it needs from my onboard fat storage.  So fasting is pretty easy for a day or two.  This time I hadn’t even reached a day and I was struggling.  Now I didn’t just give in the moment I felt hunger.  I gave it some time.  Drank a glass of water to fill my stomach.  Played a video game to take my mind off of it for a little while.  The hunger didn’t go away.  So having done what should have gotten me past a psychological craving for food I knew my body was telling me a fast was a bad idea.  So I quit.  I don’t know why this one was difficult, but my body was telling me it was.

In both cases I made an effort to continue.  I’m certainly not arguing you should stop at the first sign of trouble in whatever you’re trying to accomplish.  But if you’ve given it a good faith effort and you’re still getting the signs that you need to stop doing what you’re doing, then quit.  It’s ok.  There’s a reason you keep getting the sign.  Not quitting and soldiering on might seem courageous, but your mental “check engine” light comes on for a reason.  And just like ignoring the one on your dash, you do so at the risk of making things worse.

So know when to say when.  Even if you think people will be disappointed in that decision.  Because in the end it doesn’t matter what they think.  You’re the one who has to live with the consequences of your decision.  So make the right choice and quit when you need to.  Waiting until you’re forced to just isn’t the right when.  Have a great day.  Peace.

Interview Tomorrow   Leave a comment

So I’m going for another interview tomorrow at 1pm my time.  It’s definitely a job I’d like, which is a plus.  I’m guessing like the last interview I talked about, though, I won’t know for sure how I did right after the interview.  They have a few people to interview so I’m guessing that even if I do well I won’t be offered a job for a few days. I’m good with that. There is a similar position at another company that I’m interested in as well, so I’d like to have both interviews done before getting an offer.

Speaking of the last interview, here we are weeks later and I still haven’t heard anything back.  It’s easy when you don’t hear back to assume that you didn’t get the job or that you didn’t interview well, but it’s important to always keep in mind that they are only assumptions.  Until you get confirmation you were passed over you just don’t know.  And even if you do get passed over it doesn’t necessarily mean you interviewed poorly.  I’ll give an example.

Years ago at my current company I applied for a promotion.  At first there was only going to be one promotional slot and I knew I had some good competition for the job.  The day of the interview came and I gave it my best.  They passed along at the end of the interview that because they did have such a good talent pool they were actually going to promote two people.  I left the room feeling really good.  I felt I had answered all the questions well and carried myself with great confidence.  Plus I now knew my chances of getting the job had just doubled.

Alas, a few days later, I got a call from the head of the promotion board telling me that I wasn’t chosen.  I thanked her for considering me and asked if I might get feedback on how she felt I could improve for the next opportunity.  She told me that, as I had felt, I had interviewed very well and there wasn’t much room for improvement.  They just had numerous, highly qualified candidates and they had to pick two out of a larger group of very deserving applicants.  She told me the differences were minor and shouldn’t be looked upon as suggesting I wasn’t a good choice.  I was highly encouraged to apply when the position opened again in the future.

The head of the promotion board was a straight shooter, and definitely not one to needlessly flatter someone just to make them feel better.  So I knew the feedback was genuine.  And the ones who did get the jobs were excellent choices.  There was no shame in losing out to them.  I had done a great job, it just wasn’t my time.

Which is why it’s important to stay positive about these things, even if you do get some bad news that you didn’t get it.  There’s no reason to assume the worst before hand.  Plus, sometimes the Universe just sees a better option for you around the corner.  Which is what happened in my case.

About a week after finding out that I had not gotten the promotion a totally new position opened at my location.  A position I very much wanted, well more than the one I had just been passed over on.  Had I not been passed over, though, I probably wouldn’t have applied for the new position.  Which would have been a shame as I got it and really enjoyed doing that job.  The Universe was right, it was better I had waited.

So I go into tomorrow’s interview with that same mindset.  I’ll do my best answering the questions.  I’ll answer the questions with confidence.  And when the interview is over I’ll wait and see in patience.  Maybe I’ll get the job.  Maybe I won’t get that one, but I’ll still go on to get the other similar position at the other company.  Either way I just trust that the Universe will put me where I need to be when I need to be there.

So whether or not you have an upcoming interview or other life choice, I hope you carry that same mindset with you.  Trust that things are as they are meant to be, knowing the Universe has your back.  Have a great day tomorrow.  Peace.