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Quick Thought 2019-03-31   Leave a comment

This morning I wanted to try a place for breakfast that would have taken almost an hour to walk to.  And then of course almost another hour walking back.  So instead I decided I’d just take an Uber.  When my driver arrived I hopped into the front seat and off we went.

She asked me how my day was going and I told her it was going great.  We then spent the 10 minute drive having a wonderful conversation.  I got out of the car and wished her a good day, with her stating she hoped I had one as well.  I then went in and had a great breakfast.  Of course on the way back I got another Uber, but this time it was a different driver.

He smiled politely as I entered the car but didn’t talk.  I asked him how his day was and he replied “Good, you?”  I said “good” and left it at that.  He gave the appearance of someone not wanting to talk a lot.  We drove quietly for the 10 minute ride back to the hotel.  As I got out he wished me a nice day, and I wished him one in return.

The first one was very nice and sociable.  Outgoing and chatty.  The second one was also nice, just not chatty.  And there’s nothing wrong with that.  He wasn’t rude because he didn’t talk or entertain me.  That isn’t his job.  His job is to get me from one location to the next.

It’s easy to view one as positive and one as negative because as humans we love to rate things. But there’s another way to handle it, and that’s to accept each person as they are.  No need to judge them at all, good or bad.

If someone is nice to you, be nice back.  If they want to chat, enjoy the conversation.  On the other hand if they don’t want to chat, just respect that enjoy the quiet.

But here’s the tough one.  What if they’re mean or rude?  Leave it at they’re behaving in a way you don’t want to interact with.  You don’t have to rate their behavior as bad.  You don’t have to rate them as bad.  You just have to decide what you want to do.  Which in that case may be to stop interacting with that person.

Why do it this way?  Because it reminds you that you’re in charge.  When you assign the label of bad to them you’re reacting to their behavior.  Because they were bad you don’t wish to associate with them.  Their action determined your behavior.  They were in charge.  When you decide to not associate with them without labeling them the decision is based off of you and your desires.  You’re in control of your life as you should be.

Let me know what you think.  Agree or disagree?  I hope you enjoyed this quick thought.  See you again soon.  Peace.

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Weekly Vlog 2019-03-27   Leave a comment

This week’s vlog is up on YouTube.  It’s about worry and what you can do about it.  Hope you enjoy it.  Leave a Like if you do.  If you agree, or even if you disagree, leave a comment here or there.  Subscribe and click the bell if you want to be immediately notified every time I post a video to YouTube.  Hope you’re having a great day.  Peace.

Weekly Weigh In 2019-03-25   Leave a comment

Sorry about going dark the last few days.  I was getting ready for my trip here to Orlando, FL where I’m at training for my new job.  As such I don’t have the scale with me so no numbers for this week, just a quick check in.  Now that I’m situated here at the hotel I’ll try to be better about posting daily.  If I miss a day I hope you’ll understand as the priority has to be the training right now.  Hope you’re having a great day.  I know I am.  It’s always fun being to a new city with new things and places to explore.  Peace.

Quick Thought 2019-03-21   Leave a comment

I was at home earlier today, all comfy cozy.  Just having gotten done watching a movie (The Martian, which was rather good if you’re looking for something to watch), I was thinking about what to do next when I had the sudden urge to go to Starbucks and get a coffee and do some reading.

The idea of going there and reading with a hot coffee certainly wasn’t new to me.  Nor unique.  I go there quite regularly as a matter of fact.  It’s a nice atmosphere and a relaxing place to get some reading done.  What was weird, though, was how late in the day it was for me to do that.  You see when I normally go it’s right after my regular weekend breakfast at Mia’s Cafe.  So I’m heading there around 9 am or so.  And here it was about 1:30 pm.  But the urge was there so I decided to follow it.

I got there and it was a little more crowded than the 9 am crowd generally is.  A little noisier than it would usually be for me as well.  But I had driven there so I might as well make a go of it.  I got my coffee and sat down to read and got a few pages in when two older gentleman sat down in the chairs beside me and started talking.  It wasn’t too distracting so I kept reading when I heard one of them say “yeah, I’ve always wondered what Alaska is like.”

Mind you I wasn’t listening in.  In fact I had been doing my best to tune them out.  But the statement had caught my attention because I’ve lived most of my life in Alaska.  So I put my iPad down (all my books are on the Kindle app) and said, “excuse me for interrupting, but what did you want to know about Alaska?”  This started a wonderful conversation that lasted over an hour.  And by the end I had two new friends, Mark and Fred.  It was wonderful.

And all because I listened to the little voice inside my head.  If I had argued with the little voice and said “it’s not the right time”, I wouldn’t have had the situation.  Same results if I had just ignored it altogether.  But instead I listened.  Instead, I took the advice it offered.  And now I’m two friends richer and quite a bit happier.  A little happier still realizing right now how much Mark and Fred enjoyed the information (they learned a lot about Moose).

Sometimes things just pop into your head and you don’t know why.  Maybe every now and again you should just listen, too.  If you can’t think of a good reason why you shouldn’t, just do what the little voice suggests and see what happens.  Maybe you’ll be two friends richer, too.  Maybe you’ll be straight up richer.  Who knows.  But unless it’ll actually hurt to try, why not do it?  I hope you’re having a great day today.  I know I did.  Peace.

 

Weekly Vlog is up on YouTube 2019-03-20   Leave a comment

This week’s vlog is up and running.  It’s on fasting.  It covers the different ways to fast and the different time frames for a fast.  Let me know what you think.  If you enjoyed the video please leave a Like on YouTube for me.  If you have an agreement, or disagreement, with the video, please leave a comment here or there.  Subscribe and click the bell on YouTube if you want to be immediately notified every time I post a video to YouTube.  Have a great week.  Peace.

Weekly Weigh In 2019-03-18   Leave a comment

Here is my weekly weigh in video.  Very happy with this week’s results.  Also happy with a new product I’m trying.  Watch the video to get the low down on how things went this past week.  If you enjoy the video please leave a Like.  Subscribe and click the notification bell on YouTube if you’re interested in being immediately notified every time I upload a video to YouTube.  Hope you’re having a great day and a great week.  Peace.

Quick Thought 2019-03-18   1 comment

Have you ever been driving down the road and all of a sudden you realize you’re way farther down the road than you expected?  Perhaps you’ve been “working” in your office when you notice an hour has gone by and your cursor is still in the same spot on your monitor as the last time you looked.  Or here’s an embarrassing one.  You’re talking with someone when you realize they’re looking at you, waiting for your to respond.  Problem is you have no idea what they just said.  The bottom line in all three cases is that your mind wandered.  It happens to most people, so nothing to feel bad about.  We all lose focus from time to time.  The funny part is that we often don’t even recall our train of thought when we have these lapses in awareness.  So here’s a fun little suggestion for figuring out what you spend your time thinking about when your mind wanders and you don’t know where it’s been.

Either on your phone or watch set a timer for a random amount of time.  By random I mean avoid times like 15 minutes or  2 hours.  Times when you’ll see the alarm coming, like on the hour or half hour.  You want the alarm to be a surprise, out of the blue.  It’s even better if you can find an app that will alert you at random times during the day.

Every time the alarm goes off, jot down what you were thinking right then.  Don’t analyze or critique it, just write it down.  If the alarm goes off and you were wondering if Darth Maul could take Darth Vader in a fight, write that down.  If you were wondering where all those extra socks you lose in the dryer go, write that down.  Do this over the course of a few days.  After a few days logging go back and review what you’ve written down.

Now go an extra step.  Would you classify the majority of thoughts as happy, sad, or random?  While random thoughts, like is it better to put the toilet paper on the roller overhanded or underhanded in orientation, don’t hurt you, they don’t really help you either.  If your thoughts are predominantly sad or angry, why?  Is life really that bad?  Maybe you should police your thoughts better.  Focus more on happy thoughts.

Were the majority of the thoughts positive, happy, or uplifting?  Then good for you.  If you’re writing these down at random and it’s coming up mostly happy that means your mind spends a lot of time in your happy place.  Be proud of that.

Either way you get a good glimpse into what’s going on upstairs when you don’t even realize it.  Do this exercise from time to time to get a gauge of where you are.  Because whether you know your thoughts or not, what you keep your mind on you attract into your life.  Best to keep it positive then.  Have a happy day.  A happy week.  And hopefully a happy life.  Peace.