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Archive for the ‘criticism’ Tag

Weekly Vlog for last week up and running   Leave a comment

Still adjusting to the new schedule so I allowed the vlog posting to get delayed.  Things I’m working on this week, prioritizing!  So here is last Wednesday’s vlog because I do want to have a vlog up for every week, even if it’s posted a little late.  It’s on word choice and how words matter.  The words you choose to describe a situation can change the meaning to your mind significantly.  Specifically it can change something from a moment in time to an immutable character trait.  So it’s important to watch your word choice because words matter.  Leave a Like if you enjoy the video.  Subscribe and click the notification bell if you want to be immediately notified every time I upload a video to YouTube.  If you have suggestions, criticisms, ways I can improve, please leave a comment down below or on my YouTube page.  Hope you’re having a great day.  I know I am.  Peace.

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Quick Thought 2019-04-11   Leave a comment

You’ve been on the keto diet for several months.  You enjoy posting pics of your favorite keto meals on Instagram.  Last night’s dinner was especially photogenic so you posted a couple of pics, one for each course.  You’re happy as a clam when you see that your pics have netted you some comments.  “That looks yummy.”  “Bet that hit the spot.”  “Wish I was eating that good.”  And you read down a little farther and come across the comment you hate to see.  “That’s not keto.”

Those three words strike at your soul.  You’ve just received the word on high from the self-appointed keto police.  This is no good.  You just can’t let this one go.  But take a minute and think before you reply.

The keto police’s comment may have been unsolicited, but it was well-intentioned.  They’re just trying to help.  So there are many better ways to respond than “you’re not the boss of me!”

You could thank them for their input.  After all they were trying to improve your keto game.  Leave it at a simple thank you and move on.  No argument required, even if you’re sure they’re wrong.

If you believe they are the one in error, start a polite discussion.  Who knows, they might actually be right and now you know more.  They could be wrong and by discussing it amicably now they know more.  Either way the situation is substantially better for both you.  Certainly much better than if you had replied “shut your mouth, keto cop.”

Finally, you could just ignore it.  That’s right you can just not respond.  Not every comment needs to be replied to, so take the opportunity here to run silent.  Just let it go.

While I agree that the keto police can be challenging on the patience it’s helpful to remember that while they may not employ the best methods, their hearts are in the right place.  So be kind and respond in kind.  Have a great day.  Peace.

Quick Thought 2019-03-31   Leave a comment

This morning I wanted to try a place for breakfast that would have taken almost an hour to walk to.  And then of course almost another hour walking back.  So instead I decided I’d just take an Uber.  When my driver arrived I hopped into the front seat and off we went.

She asked me how my day was going and I told her it was going great.  We then spent the 10 minute drive having a wonderful conversation.  I got out of the car and wished her a good day, with her stating she hoped I had one as well.  I then went in and had a great breakfast.  Of course on the way back I got another Uber, but this time it was a different driver.

He smiled politely as I entered the car but didn’t talk.  I asked him how his day was and he replied “Good, you?”  I said “good” and left it at that.  He gave the appearance of someone not wanting to talk a lot.  We drove quietly for the 10 minute ride back to the hotel.  As I got out he wished me a nice day, and I wished him one in return.

The first one was very nice and sociable.  Outgoing and chatty.  The second one was also nice, just not chatty.  And there’s nothing wrong with that.  He wasn’t rude because he didn’t talk or entertain me.  That isn’t his job.  His job is to get me from one location to the next.

It’s easy to view one as positive and one as negative because as humans we love to rate things. But there’s another way to handle it, and that’s to accept each person as they are.  No need to judge them at all, good or bad.

If someone is nice to you, be nice back.  If they want to chat, enjoy the conversation.  On the other hand if they don’t want to chat, just respect that enjoy the quiet.

But here’s the tough one.  What if they’re mean or rude?  Leave it at they’re behaving in a way you don’t want to interact with.  You don’t have to rate their behavior as bad.  You don’t have to rate them as bad.  You just have to decide what you want to do.  Which in that case may be to stop interacting with that person.

Why do it this way?  Because it reminds you that you’re in charge.  When you assign the label of bad to them you’re reacting to their behavior.  Because they were bad you don’t wish to associate with them.  Their action determined your behavior.  They were in charge.  When you decide to not associate with them without labeling them the decision is based off of you and your desires.  You’re in control of your life as you should be.

Let me know what you think.  Agree or disagree?  I hope you enjoyed this quick thought.  See you again soon.  Peace.

Weekly Vlog Is Up On YouTube 2019-03-06   Leave a comment

This week’s video is up.  It’s about being mindful about your self-talk.  Your brain is a computer and it’ll accept whatever input you give it.  Tell it you’re stupid and it’ll accept that.  So it’s very important to consider what you’re telling yourself.  Leave a comment telling me what you think.  Also feel free to leave suggestions for topics or how I can do better with my videos.  Leave a Like and Subscribe if you enjoy the content.  Click the bell if you want to be immediately notified every time I post a video.  Have a great week.  Peace.

Weekly Vlog Uploaded to YouTube   Leave a comment

Here is this week’s vlog.  It’s on handling criticism.  Like many things in life, criticism is all about how you view it or take it.  This vlog is about how to take it in a way that works for you betterment.  Leave a Like on YouTube if you enjoyed the video.  If you agree or disagree with me, please leave a comment letting me know.  Subscribe and click the bell if you want to be immediately notified every time I upload a new video.  Have a great day.