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Quick Thought   Leave a comment

When we see our friend after they’ve been to the salon for a new haircut we will often take a moment to compliment them on their new look.  When someone we know gets a new car we’ll show all sorts of interest in it and tell them what a great purchase they’ve made.  If we haven’t seen an acquaintance for a while and they appear to be more fit than when we saw them last time we’ll ask them if they’ve lost some weight or if they’ve been working out.

When it comes to the people we see regularly we take time to compliment them and build them up.  We even do this with people we don’t see very often but are acquainted with.  Sadly, the one person we don’t generally pay this courtesy to is ourselves.

Why don’t we do this for the man (or woman) in the mirror?  What’s so wrong about taking a moment to compliment ourselves on how nice our hair looks today?  If we got something new at a great price, why can’t we be proud of ourselves about it?  When we’ve been on point about our diet and exercise and the results are showing, is there anything wrong with taking notice and patting ourselves on the back?

We’ve been told since we were children that the answer is yes.  It’s bad.  It’s vain.  It’s self-serving and therefore wrong.  But is it really?  Like everything its a matter of moderation.  If you’re spending all day looking in the mirror admiring yourself, of course that’s not good.  But a quick “looking good” in the morning when you’re looking good is just showing confidence.  That’s a good thing.  Being proud of yourself for making a wise purchase isn’t egotistical, it’s prudent.  We should want to be shrewd in our business deals.  Letting yourself know that you’re pleased with the success you’ve had isn’t self serving, it’s reinforcing good behaviour.  Behaviour you should want to continue with.

So next time you see yourself in the mirror go ahead and be happy.  You’re a good person and you deserve it.  Smile and remind yourself you have a right to be happy.  Be proud of yourself like you would be for a good friend who was succeeding.  It isn’t wrong to be proud of yourself.  It should only be worrisome if you can’t.  Have a great day.  Peace.

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Are You Really Too Busy?   Leave a comment

Have you ever scheduled a gym session in for the day and by day’s end it just didn’t happen?  Did you ever plan on meditating to start your day but by the time you got to work you realized that instead of clearing your mind first thing it actually just slipped your mind?

We have a lot of rationalizations for these scheduling shortcomings.  You got out of work late so you didn’t have time to stop by the gym on the way home.  Or you got home and now you have other things to do so you just don’t think you’ll be able to squeeze time in for meditating.  Or there are a backlog of other obligations you need to attend to and the gym and meditation room just aren’t high enough on the list to make the cut.

You really believe that you want to do these activities, if only there was time.  But try as you might you just don’t seem to be able to find any room in your schedule to accommodate these activities.  If only there were more time in the day.

Is that really true though?  Is it absolutely impossible to work in anything more to your schedule?

Ask yourself this.  What if, instead of meditating for half an hour, you were told that you’d be put in a room with your favorite celebrity for that same amount of time?  I bet your schedule would be empty enough to fit that in.

Or if your hour of gym time, that you couldn’t possibly make today because your booked, suddenly become an hour alone with your fantasy crush.  Would you text your crush to tell them that you just can’t spare the time?  Probably not.

In reality we know that we could make the time for the activities if we were truly motivated to do so, we just aren’t.  If you allow yourself to be fooled by the excuse that you just can’t find the time then you never look hard enough to find the real reason you don’ t do these beneficial activities.

So spend a little time considering why you can’t make that time.  There are many reasons why people can’t find the time, but the only one that matters is the reason you’re not finding it.  When you get your reason take out a piece of paper and draw a line down the center.  On one side list the ways this reason is benefiting you, and on the other a list of how it’s hurting you.  Keep the list with you and when you find that you “don’t have the time” to meditate or go to the gym take out your list and read it.  I’m guessing the list of benefits won’t take much of any time to read, but the list of hurts will.

Hopefully when you’ve had a moment to see how your “reason” is affecting your life you’ll be motivated to get to the gym or clear some time to clear your mind.  Do this often enough and you’ll get into the habit of going to the gym and meditating.  And once it’s a habit you’ll easily find the time for it, no matter how busy your schedule really becomes.  Have a great day.  Peace.

Weekly Weigh In Video   Leave a comment

Here is this week’s weigh in video.  Let me know what you think about this week’s progress.  If you liked the video please leave a Like on YouTube.  If you have a comment or suggestion on my progress, the video itself, or things I can do better feel free to leave it either here or on the YouTube channel.  Subscribe and click the notification bell if you want to be immediately notified very time I post a video to my YouTube channel.  Have a great week.  Peace.

Your Brain the Hard Drive   Leave a comment

When your phone or computer starts running out of storage you’ll get a little message telling you so.  The device is prompting you to look at what you have on it and determine what you feel is important and what you can afford to get rid of.  And then you start deleting to make more room.

In a way, your brain works the same way.  It’s constantly determining what’s important and what isn’t.  What you want to keep, and what you can get rid of because it isn’t serving you anymore.  The big difference is how it goes about doing it.

Your phone or computer, should you ignore the initial warning, will simply send you another message soon enough.  Storage is full.  It won’t allow you to add anything else until you take the steps mentioned before to create more room.

Your brain does this automatically.  It’ll just start deleting things it feels you don’t need anymore while increasing the storage density of the things you do.

So how does your brain determine what’s important and you should keep?  Or how does it know what to delete?  It’s all summed up in the old phrase “use it or lose it.”

If you spend your day focusing on negative thoughts it assumes negative thoughts are important to you.  So it starts doubling down on saving negativity.  The areas of your brain focused on negativity will actually become more dense.  Your brain will start making connections between this negativity and that to reinforce the negative mindset for you.  And the more negative you get the less your brain feels you need positivity.  So guess what?  It’ll start spring cleaning out your positivity in favor of making room for more negativity.

The thing is that it works just as well the other way around.  If you focus on positivity your brain will assume that’s important to you.  It’ll make the areas of your brain focused on positivity more dense.  It’ll start viewing negativity as unimportant and will start deleting the negativity files on your brain’s hard drive.

The easiest way to accomplish this goal is planned input.  Start a gratitude journal so you have to focus on what’s good in your life.  When you find a positive affirmation you like write it down on a piece of paper and hang it where you frequently walk by so you’ll be constantly reminded of it.  Get a blank business card and write something motivational on it.  I carry one around in my wallet at all times.  On one side I wrote my name over the title “YouTube Influencer”  because I’m trying to grow my YouTube channel.  Every time I look at the card I’m not only reminded of that goal, it’s presented to me as if it has already occurred.  On the other side I’ve written my favorite affirmation.  “Every day in every way, I AM getting better and better.”  I look at that a lot too.

Maybe you’re more visual.  Keep pictures around your house that give you happy thoughts.  Make a point of stopping in front of them and take time to appreciate them.  Watch videos on YouTube that increase your positive vibes.

Maybe you’re more auditory focused.  Perhaps the Superman theme song gets you revved up and motivated.  Play it in your car on the way to work.  They make apps that recite positive affirmations for you.  You could play that as well, or instead.  Have an area of your life you want to improve on?  Find a podcast devoted to that area and take time each day to listen to it.

However you accomplish the goal of adding positive input into your hard drive you’ll slowly build up the positive connections in your brain.  Over time that will tell your internal hard drive management system to free up more space for it.  That means you’ll start being less negative naturally.  And a snowball effect will occur.  With less negative programming in your brain you become more positive.  When you become more positive your brain increases the positive files and density.  That in turn makes you less negative.  And again and again.

Your brain has been working this way all along, you just may not have been mindful of the data you’re inputting.  Make a choice today to only upload that which benefits you.  At the same time you’ve made the choice to release that which does not.  Over time, if you stick with the program, you’ll become the person you want to be instead of the person you happen to be.  And hopefully that’ll be a very positive person indeed.  Have a great day.  Peace.

Quick Thought   Leave a comment

It’s all very well and good that you want to lose weight to be healthier.  Who wouldn’t want that?  How many people do you know who go around thinking “If only I were less healthy how much better would things be?”

Don’t just focus on being healthier.  Consider what you mean by being healthier.  Does that just mean being lighter?  Well if you lose a couple of pounds of muscle you’d be lighter, but I’m guessing you wouldn’t really be happier.

Does being healthier mean being sick less often?  Does it mean running faster?  Perhaps, to you, it means changing, lowering, or possibly even not having to take medications you’re currently on.  Or even just sleeping better.

There aren’t any right or wrong answers here.  Just follow the train of thought where it leads.  You start out with wanting to be healthier.  Healthier to you means having lower body fat.  Better muscle definition.  A chiseled jaw line.  You realize you want to be healthier to be more attractive.

Or maybe carrying all the extra weight you do means you don’t move as well.  So you want to be healthier to be more mobile.  And once you become more mobile you’ll go out and do more in nature.  You just want to be able to explore the world of nature around you.

Again, there’s no right or wrong here, just follow the path to the end.  And when you arrive mentally at your destination put a pin in it like you would on Google Maps to always have it available to look up later.

Because some days you may not feel like eating as healthy.  Some days you may be tired and don’t feel like exercising.  Some days you might not feel like taking a few extra minutes out of your day to do a blog post.  You’d rather call it an early day and get to dreaming.

And then you pull out your mental map with the pin in it.  You remember where you’re headed.  You recall how much you want to be there.  Suddenly that cheat meal doesn’t seem so tasty.  Suddenly you realize you need to at least start the workout and see where it goes.  Suddenly you know that the dreams will be waiting for you in a few minutes, after you’ve shared on your blog.

Nice thing about maps is that they’re there when you need them.  You don’t have to study it all day.  Just occasionally take a gander every now and again to keep yourself on track.  Check your map every so often and you’re sure to reach your destination.  Have a great day.  Peace.

Weekly Vlog Uploaded to YouTube   Leave a comment

Here is this week’s vlog.  It’s on handling criticism.  Like many things in life, criticism is all about how you view it or take it.  This vlog is about how to take it in a way that works for you betterment.  Leave a Like on YouTube if you enjoyed the video.  If you agree or disagree with me, please leave a comment letting me know.  Subscribe and click the bell if you want to be immediately notified every time I upload a new video.  Have a great day.

Job Hunt Update   Leave a comment

So I told you all a bit ago that I had put in for a new job that I had to go take a typing test for.  I took the test and scored well over the speed requirement.  Because of the score I got on the typing test and the skills test I took at the same time I moved on to the next round of the hiring process.

Today I completed that round, which was an interview panel.  So for today’s blog I thought I’d give some suggestions on how to do better on an interview.  Now of course I won’t know for a bit how I did in regard to moving forward in the job process but I can say right now that I did do a good job on the interview.

First thing to keep in mind is going to be an obvious one.  How you dress.  As you walk in your appearance will be the first thing they judge.  It gives a sense of how seriously you take the hiring process.  I chose to wear a nice set of clean and ironed khakis and a long-sleeved, button up shirt, with polishable black shoes.  Why did I pick that?  You should aim for something slightly more formal than you’d wear on the job.  For that place the employees can dress in jeans and polos.  Very casual business casual.  My outfit would be at the upper end of business casual.  It showed I was serious about the job without overstating it.  Wearing a suit would have been overshooting the mark and could work against you if you’re better dressed than the people doing the interview.  It can come across as snobby.

The second thing to keep in mind is your answers are your answers.  Right or wrong,  good or bad, those are the answers you gave.  So give them with confidence.  Giving an answer with confidence at least tells the interviewer(s) that you believe in your answer.  You didn’t just babble on to get an answer out.  That was the answer you wanted to give.  It may not have been the one they were looking for but they’ll appreciate the fact that you owned it.  Confidence is an attractive quality.

Speaking of confidence, be mindful how you sit.  Slouching or leaning back in the chair makes you seem disinterested and possibly slovenly.  The impression will be that you’re not taking the interview seriously.  Leaning forward toward the panel can also be problematic as it could be perceived as challenging or aggressive.  The best posture is to sit up straight, knees slightly apart with your hands on your legs.  It’s a dominant stance and exudes confidence.  It’s ok to have your hands up and moving to make points or gestures that are germane to what you’re saying as long as you’re not just moving them without purpose.

At the end of the interview you should remember to do two things.  The first is to thank the interviewer (or panel) for their time.  It’s polite and shows respect.  That means the last thing you’re doing will be leaving a positive impression on them.  The second thing you should do is pull an Elsa and let it go.  The interview is over.  There’s no point in second guessing your answers at this point.  There’s no point in worrying how you did.  None of that will change what just happened.  Having said that if you can review your performance without beating up on yourself that’s a useful thing to do.  But getting on yourself for not having the “right” answer or assuming you failed the interview is counterproductive to moving forward.  You did your best, be happy with that.  Besides, it’s silly to beat yourself up over an interview that you haven’t even found out the results for.  Which will be even more silly if you get the job.

The final thoughts I’ll share relate to if you find out you didn’t get the job.  When they call you with the news that you didn’t get it thank them anyway.  You look magnanimous for doing it and it leaves a bridge there in case there’s another opening you can apply for in the future.  Also, if given a chance, ask them if they have any feedback for you about the interview.  It gives you information on how to improve your performance while letting them know you’re all about improving.  That’s a win/win.

Finally, remember it’s the results of a job interview, not a commentary on you or your life.  They had to pick one person and it didn’t happen to be you.  That doesn’t mean you aren’t qualified or were a bad choice.  Think of it this way.  A McLaren P1 can roast a Bugatti Veyron in a drag race.  Does that make a Veyron a bad car?  Of course not.  It’s still smoking fast, the P1 is just a bit faster.  You could still be an excellent candidate for the job but if they can only hire one person and there was someone slightly better than you, it’s not a negative reflection on you. Being a Veyron is ok.

With that I’ll remind you to stay positive, keep looking, and have a great day.  Peace.