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It’s all very well and good that you want to lose weight to be healthier.  Who wouldn’t want that?  How many people do you know who go around thinking “If only I were less healthy how much better would things be?”

Don’t just focus on being healthier.  Consider what you mean by being healthier.  Does that just mean being lighter?  Well if you lose a couple of pounds of muscle you’d be lighter, but I’m guessing you wouldn’t really be happier.

Does being healthier mean being sick less often?  Does it mean running faster?  Perhaps, to you, it means changing, lowering, or possibly even not having to take medications you’re currently on.  Or even just sleeping better.

There aren’t any right or wrong answers here.  Just follow the train of thought where it leads.  You start out with wanting to be healthier.  Healthier to you means having lower body fat.  Better muscle definition.  A chiseled jaw line.  You realize you want to be healthier to be more attractive.

Or maybe carrying all the extra weight you do means you don’t move as well.  So you want to be healthier to be more mobile.  And once you become more mobile you’ll go out and do more in nature.  You just want to be able to explore the world of nature around you.

Again, there’s no right or wrong here, just follow the path to the end.  And when you arrive mentally at your destination put a pin in it like you would on Google Maps to always have it available to look up later.

Because some days you may not feel like eating as healthy.  Some days you may be tired and don’t feel like exercising.  Some days you might not feel like taking a few extra minutes out of your day to do a blog post.  You’d rather call it an early day and get to dreaming.

And then you pull out your mental map with the pin in it.  You remember where you’re headed.  You recall how much you want to be there.  Suddenly that cheat meal doesn’t seem so tasty.  Suddenly you realize you need to at least start the workout and see where it goes.  Suddenly you know that the dreams will be waiting for you in a few minutes, after you’ve shared on your blog.

Nice thing about maps is that they’re there when you need them.  You don’t have to study it all day.  Just occasionally take a gander every now and again to keep yourself on track.  Check your map every so often and you’re sure to reach your destination.  Have a great day.  Peace.

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Weekly Vlog Uploaded to YouTube   Leave a comment

Here is this week’s vlog.  It’s on handling criticism.  Like many things in life, criticism is all about how you view it or take it.  This vlog is about how to take it in a way that works for you betterment.  Leave a Like on YouTube if you enjoyed the video.  If you agree or disagree with me, please leave a comment letting me know.  Subscribe and click the bell if you want to be immediately notified every time I upload a new video.  Have a great day.

Job Hunt Update   Leave a comment

So I told you all a bit ago that I had put in for a new job that I had to go take a typing test for.  I took the test and scored well over the speed requirement.  Because of the score I got on the typing test and the skills test I took at the same time I moved on to the next round of the hiring process.

Today I completed that round, which was an interview panel.  So for today’s blog I thought I’d give some suggestions on how to do better on an interview.  Now of course I won’t know for a bit how I did in regard to moving forward in the job process but I can say right now that I did do a good job on the interview.

First thing to keep in mind is going to be an obvious one.  How you dress.  As you walk in your appearance will be the first thing they judge.  It gives a sense of how seriously you take the hiring process.  I chose to wear a nice set of clean and ironed khakis and a long-sleeved, button up shirt, with polishable black shoes.  Why did I pick that?  You should aim for something slightly more formal than you’d wear on the job.  For that place the employees can dress in jeans and polos.  Very casual business casual.  My outfit would be at the upper end of business casual.  It showed I was serious about the job without overstating it.  Wearing a suit would have been overshooting the mark and could work against you if you’re better dressed than the people doing the interview.  It can come across as snobby.

The second thing to keep in mind is your answers are your answers.  Right or wrong,  good or bad, those are the answers you gave.  So give them with confidence.  Giving an answer with confidence at least tells the interviewer(s) that you believe in your answer.  You didn’t just babble on to get an answer out.  That was the answer you wanted to give.  It may not have been the one they were looking for but they’ll appreciate the fact that you owned it.  Confidence is an attractive quality.

Speaking of confidence, be mindful how you sit.  Slouching or leaning back in the chair makes you seem disinterested and possibly slovenly.  The impression will be that you’re not taking the interview seriously.  Leaning forward toward the panel can also be problematic as it could be perceived as challenging or aggressive.  The best posture is to sit up straight, knees slightly apart with your hands on your legs.  It’s a dominant stance and exudes confidence.  It’s ok to have your hands up and moving to make points or gestures that are germane to what you’re saying as long as you’re not just moving them without purpose.

At the end of the interview you should remember to do two things.  The first is to thank the interviewer (or panel) for their time.  It’s polite and shows respect.  That means the last thing you’re doing will be leaving a positive impression on them.  The second thing you should do is pull an Elsa and let it go.  The interview is over.  There’s no point in second guessing your answers at this point.  There’s no point in worrying how you did.  None of that will change what just happened.  Having said that if you can review your performance without beating up on yourself that’s a useful thing to do.  But getting on yourself for not having the “right” answer or assuming you failed the interview is counterproductive to moving forward.  You did your best, be happy with that.  Besides, it’s silly to beat yourself up over an interview that you haven’t even found out the results for.  Which will be even more silly if you get the job.

The final thoughts I’ll share relate to if you find out you didn’t get the job.  When they call you with the news that you didn’t get it thank them anyway.  You look magnanimous for doing it and it leaves a bridge there in case there’s another opening you can apply for in the future.  Also, if given a chance, ask them if they have any feedback for you about the interview.  It gives you information on how to improve your performance while letting them know you’re all about improving.  That’s a win/win.

Finally, remember it’s the results of a job interview, not a commentary on you or your life.  They had to pick one person and it didn’t happen to be you.  That doesn’t mean you aren’t qualified or were a bad choice.  Think of it this way.  A McLaren P1 can roast a Bugatti Veyron in a drag race.  Does that make a Veyron a bad car?  Of course not.  It’s still smoking fast, the P1 is just a bit faster.  You could still be an excellent candidate for the job but if they can only hire one person and there was someone slightly better than you, it’s not a negative reflection on you. Being a Veyron is ok.

With that I’ll remind you to stay positive, keep looking, and have a great day.  Peace.

New Vlog Up On YouTube.   Leave a comment

What happens if you’ve been trying to lose weight on the ketogenic diet but nothing is happening?  Keto isn’t working for you.  This vlog covers reasons why this could be happening and what to do about them.  If you like the content please leave a like on my YouTube channel.  It helps with my chances of being seen in search results which helps others find my videos.  And I’m trying to reach out and help as many people as possible.  Subscribe and click the notification bell if you’d like to be notified immediately when I post.  Leave a comment here or there letting me know how I did.  If you have an agreement, or even a disagreement, I’d love to hear it.  Suggestions on how to improve the vlog are definitely welcome.  I hope you’re having a great day, which leads to a great week, and then a great life.  Peace.

Quick Thought   4 comments

As I drive to and from work I like to make use of the alone time to get some thinking done.  It varies from drive to drive, but often I like considering ideas for my blog or vlog.  This morning I was considering such an idea when a funny and reassuring incident happened.  Almost like the Universe gave me a little wink.

I was thinking about focus and how it affects vision.  I remembered when I was considering what car I would get when I had moved down to Washington State from Alaska.  I had left my 98 GMC Sonoma up there and needed a new vehicle.  As I was going to have to drive 60 miles each way to work the Toyota Prius was at the top of my list because of the mileage it got.

Even though I didn’t recall seeing that many Prius before I decided to get one I was seeing them all of the time when I did.  It was so weird.  I mentioned it to a coworker who offered a plausible explanation.  The number of Prius hadn’t changed, I was just noticing them more because I was focused on the Prius as a car to own.

I was remembering that this morning as a blog post idea.  I thought about how I could explain it and decided that a thought experiment would be a good idea.  What you’d do is focus on a car you’d buy right now if you had to get a new car.  It just needed to be one in your price range that you could buy in the area.  So nothing exotic like a Ferrari or anything.  Then a funny thought popped into my head.  I live in northern Alabama now and the people around here love their big cars.  So in my head I jokingly told myself that you’d need to rule out a Smart Fortwo as well because you’d never find one here.  And no sooner had I thought this, a red and black Smart Fortwo drove by.

I might have overlooked it had I not been thinking about it.  So it reassured me of the importance of focus.  It also reminded me a bit about a way I was told to test the Law of Attraction.  And that was to picture something unusual coming into your life.  Something odd that could only be explained by the LOA.  The example that was used was a blue apple.  And shortly thereafter the person received a plastic, blue apple.  An item you aren’t likely to come across arrived in their life in close proximity to wishing for it.

It was the same thing for the Smart Fortwo.  Now keep in mind that I don’t recall ever seeing one between today and when I arrived here in July 2017.  It’s certainly not a common car around here so to drive past one right after thinking that funny thought would be an amazingly huge coincidence if that’s all it was.

But I’m more inclined to think that the Universe was having a little fun with me.  Giving me a little nudge and a wink, if you will.  The message was a reminder that you attract what you focus on, even the unlikely.  So I enjoyed a little chuckle as I drove the rest of the way to work.

The signs and messages are out there if you just stay focused on them and are ready to receive.  Stay open and inviting this week, friends.  Have a great day.  Peace.

Quick Thought   Leave a comment

The human brain is often compared to a computer.  But that isn’t really a perfect analogy.  In a computer you can input the data once and the computer will always remember it, even if you don’t access it for a week, or a month, or a year.  The brain is more of a “use it or lose it” kind of operation.  Also, a computer is a static device.  The parts it has in the configuration they are in will be the same today as tomorrow no matter what input you place in it.  The brain grows according to focus.  And it connects like with like.

So the more time you spend dwelling on a particular thought or emotion the more you solidify it in your mind.  You also grow that area of your brain.  And those areas will reach out and make connections to other areas that are similar or that you associate the emotion with.

The more time you spend on one input the less you spend on another.  So if you spend more time focusing on good and happy thoughts that build and nurture, you have less time to spend thinking negative thoughts that tear your down and harm you.  This builds the happy areas of your brain, connects you better with that happiness, and also over time causes the negative areas to fade away and lose power.

An easy way to do this is to devote a little bit of time in the morning and night to reading a list of positive affirmations.  You can use a list that you create so it’s personalized to you, or you can use a list you’ve downloaded from the internet.  If you use Google images to search for “positive affirmation list” you’ll come up with plenty of options.  Just find the ones that speak to you or you feel a pull towards.

As soon after you wake up in the morning as you can, take the list out and just read through it 3-5 times, depending on how long the list is and how much time you can devote to the practice.  At the end of the day, preferably right before you go to sleep, read the list 3-5 times again.  If you want to have a separate list for morning and evening that works too.  Also, if you have down time during the day, or just feel you need a pick me up, go ahead and read the list again for as long as time permits.

It’s just that simple.  It takes a short amount of time out of your day.  Over time the practice reinforces the happy parts of your brain, making you naturally happier.  And it becomes a positive feedback loop.  So even when you’re not reading your list your thoughts will tend to be happier.  And over time the negativity will fade away.

So before you go to bed tonight make, or download, a list and check it twice (or 3-5 times).  Program your brain daily and the connection between yourself and happiness will literally become thicker and thicker until there is only room for happiness in your mind.  Have a great day.  Peace.

 

When Life Hands You Donuts, And You’re Keto.   Leave a comment

Today at work we were treated to a lunch of deli sandwiches, chips, cookies, and donuts.  Not exactly the healthiest fare.  And most certainly not keto.  It’s easy to look at the spread and think “well I can’t participate in this” and avoid the break room entirely.  But you can always make the best of any situation.

How could I participate in this decidedly non-keto meal?  Well there were actually a few options.  It just required my being attentive.  The first option was the deli sandwiches.  They were either turkey, chicken, or ham served on a ciabatta bun with romaine lettuce, tomato, and cheese.  The sauces were on the side so you could add them to taste.  All I had to do was remove the ciabata bun and the rest of the sandwich was keto.  Was it as filling as eating the whole sandwich?  No, but then again one of the nice things about the keto diet is not feeling hungry so I don’t eat as much anyway.  Each deli sandwich came with a pickle, which is also keto, and not everyone likes pickles.  So I was able to get a couple extra spears that way.

The donuts, which were from the beginning of the day as a “breakfast” food were also served with coffee.  The donuts were obviously a no go but black coffee is not only allowed on the keto diet, it’s actually helpful.  The water volume helps with satiety and the caffeine in the coffee helps rev up the metabolism.

So I was able to partake, I just needed to focus on the few good things I could have, and not focus on the wide spread of things I shouldn’t have.  I just picked the best options for me from all the available ones so that I could enjoy the provided meal with the crew.

And that brings up the last option I had for making the best of the situation.  Let’s assume none of the food would work for me.  Maybe the sandwiches were made with a sugary dressing.  Or it was all just cookies and donuts.  I still had a final option available and that was just grab a cup of coffee and hang out with the gang anyway.  I’ve fasted for just over two days before so certainly I can make it through one lunch hour.  And the point of the meal was to socialize while eating.  Even if I couldn’t eat I didn’t have to deny myself the opportunity to socialize.  Especially since the socializing was the best part.

And that’s how we should view all situations presented to us in life.  Don’t focus on what we’re denied.  Focus on what works or is good for us.  Like going to the store and the only parking spots are on the far end of the lot.  Don’t focus on how it sucks you’re so far from the building, focus on how you’re getting in extra steps unexpectedly which is good for your health.  When you go into the store to buy some food and your favorite brand is out of stock don’t focus on the lack.  Focus on the opportunity to try something new.  Then you get into your car and start driving home and the roads blocked due to an accident.  Don’t focus on the hold up.  Focus on how you’re getting a few extra minutes to meditate you didn’t realize you’d get.  Focus on how you get to try a different way home tonight.  Or better yet focus on how lucky you are that you go there after the accident and not during.

Regardless of the situations you find yourself in this week, make the best of them.  You always have a choice of viewing things in a positive way, or a negative one.  And being positive just feels so much better.  So give it a try.  Find your silver lining and make it a great day anyway.  Peace and happiness.