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Quick Thought 2019-03-21   Leave a comment

I was at home earlier today, all comfy cozy.  Just having gotten done watching a movie (The Martian, which was rather good if you’re looking for something to watch), I was thinking about what to do next when I had the sudden urge to go to Starbucks and get a coffee and do some reading.

The idea of going there and reading with a hot coffee certainly wasn’t new to me.  Nor unique.  I go there quite regularly as a matter of fact.  It’s a nice atmosphere and a relaxing place to get some reading done.  What was weird, though, was how late in the day it was for me to do that.  You see when I normally go it’s right after my regular weekend breakfast at Mia’s Cafe.  So I’m heading there around 9 am or so.  And here it was about 1:30 pm.  But the urge was there so I decided to follow it.

I got there and it was a little more crowded than the 9 am crowd generally is.  A little noisier than it would usually be for me as well.  But I had driven there so I might as well make a go of it.  I got my coffee and sat down to read and got a few pages in when two older gentleman sat down in the chairs beside me and started talking.  It wasn’t too distracting so I kept reading when I heard one of them say “yeah, I’ve always wondered what Alaska is like.”

Mind you I wasn’t listening in.  In fact I had been doing my best to tune them out.  But the statement had caught my attention because I’ve lived most of my life in Alaska.  So I put my iPad down (all my books are on the Kindle app) and said, “excuse me for interrupting, but what did you want to know about Alaska?”  This started a wonderful conversation that lasted over an hour.  And by the end I had two new friends, Mark and Fred.  It was wonderful.

And all because I listened to the little voice inside my head.  If I had argued with the little voice and said “it’s not the right time”, I wouldn’t have had the situation.  Same results if I had just ignored it altogether.  But instead I listened.  Instead, I took the advice it offered.  And now I’m two friends richer and quite a bit happier.  A little happier still realizing right now how much Mark and Fred enjoyed the information (they learned a lot about Moose).

Sometimes things just pop into your head and you don’t know why.  Maybe every now and again you should just listen, too.  If you can’t think of a good reason why you shouldn’t, just do what the little voice suggests and see what happens.  Maybe you’ll be two friends richer, too.  Maybe you’ll be straight up richer.  Who knows.  But unless it’ll actually hurt to try, why not do it?  I hope you’re having a great day today.  I know I did.  Peace.

 

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Weekly Weigh In 2019-03-18   Leave a comment

Here is my weekly weigh in video.  Very happy with this week’s results.  Also happy with a new product I’m trying.  Watch the video to get the low down on how things went this past week.  If you enjoy the video please leave a Like.  Subscribe and click the notification bell on YouTube if you’re interested in being immediately notified every time I upload a video to YouTube.  Hope you’re having a great day and a great week.  Peace.

Quick Thought 2019-03-18   1 comment

Have you ever been driving down the road and all of a sudden you realize you’re way farther down the road than you expected?  Perhaps you’ve been “working” in your office when you notice an hour has gone by and your cursor is still in the same spot on your monitor as the last time you looked.  Or here’s an embarrassing one.  You’re talking with someone when you realize they’re looking at you, waiting for your to respond.  Problem is you have no idea what they just said.  The bottom line in all three cases is that your mind wandered.  It happens to most people, so nothing to feel bad about.  We all lose focus from time to time.  The funny part is that we often don’t even recall our train of thought when we have these lapses in awareness.  So here’s a fun little suggestion for figuring out what you spend your time thinking about when your mind wanders and you don’t know where it’s been.

Either on your phone or watch set a timer for a random amount of time.  By random I mean avoid times like 15 minutes or  2 hours.  Times when you’ll see the alarm coming, like on the hour or half hour.  You want the alarm to be a surprise, out of the blue.  It’s even better if you can find an app that will alert you at random times during the day.

Every time the alarm goes off, jot down what you were thinking right then.  Don’t analyze or critique it, just write it down.  If the alarm goes off and you were wondering if Darth Maul could take Darth Vader in a fight, write that down.  If you were wondering where all those extra socks you lose in the dryer go, write that down.  Do this over the course of a few days.  After a few days logging go back and review what you’ve written down.

Now go an extra step.  Would you classify the majority of thoughts as happy, sad, or random?  While random thoughts, like is it better to put the toilet paper on the roller overhanded or underhanded in orientation, don’t hurt you, they don’t really help you either.  If your thoughts are predominantly sad or angry, why?  Is life really that bad?  Maybe you should police your thoughts better.  Focus more on happy thoughts.

Were the majority of the thoughts positive, happy, or uplifting?  Then good for you.  If you’re writing these down at random and it’s coming up mostly happy that means your mind spends a lot of time in your happy place.  Be proud of that.

Either way you get a good glimpse into what’s going on upstairs when you don’t even realize it.  Do this exercise from time to time to get a gauge of where you are.  Because whether you know your thoughts or not, what you keep your mind on you attract into your life.  Best to keep it positive then.  Have a happy day.  A happy week.  And hopefully a happy life.  Peace.

Knowing When To Say When.   2 comments

We’re all familiar with the phrase “nobody likes a quitter.”  It’s said like it’s an absolute.  Under no situations should you quit otherwise you’ll risk alienating yourself from others.  Of course we understand there are exceptions.  You won’t be looked down upon if you quit smoking.  In that case being a quitter is fine.  Mainly it refers to tasks you start that you should, in “nobody”s opinion be able to complete.

Well I’m not a big believer in “nobody likes a quitter.”  I’m more inclined to side with another common phrase “know when to say when.”  You see there are many occasions when knowing when to quit is actually a good thing for you.

Anybody who has watched Wheel of Fortune should get this.  How many times have you seen a contestant with a decent amount of money spin the wheel again because there is still money to be made.  And how many times has that decision ended in ruin when they hit the bankrupt wedge on the wheel.  That person didn’t know when to say when.

Now I’m assuming in most people’s lives the Wheel of Fortune example won’t be particularly relevant consider the very small percentage of the population that winds up on the show.  So what would be a more relevant example for the average person?  I’ll give two that happened to me in the last week.

First, I was doing a jump rope workout and it was going pretty well.  And then I tweaked my left ankle.  And that’s my “bad ankle.”  I was born club footed there and the surgery to correct it has left it a little weak.  That makes it easy to tweak.  Now the “nobody likes a quitter” group would tell me to cowboy up.  No pain, no gain.  But in reality I was feeling pain for a reason.  Now sometimes I feel the pain and it goes right away, so I kept going for a little longer.  But the pain didn’t go away.  So I knew it was time to stop.  I quit because I listened to my body.  It was telling me enough.  If I kept going, which I could have done, I risked making it worse.  And then I might be affecting other areas of my life if I couldn’t walk because I injured my ankle.  I knew it was time to say when.

Second, I fast regularly.  It isn’t a problem for me.  Usually it isn’t, anyway.  But the other day I felt something I don’t usually feel anymore.  Hunger.  Being keto adapted my body can generally find all the energy it needs from my onboard fat storage.  So fasting is pretty easy for a day or two.  This time I hadn’t even reached a day and I was struggling.  Now I didn’t just give in the moment I felt hunger.  I gave it some time.  Drank a glass of water to fill my stomach.  Played a video game to take my mind off of it for a little while.  The hunger didn’t go away.  So having done what should have gotten me past a psychological craving for food I knew my body was telling me a fast was a bad idea.  So I quit.  I don’t know why this one was difficult, but my body was telling me it was.

In both cases I made an effort to continue.  I’m certainly not arguing you should stop at the first sign of trouble in whatever you’re trying to accomplish.  But if you’ve given it a good faith effort and you’re still getting the signs that you need to stop doing what you’re doing, then quit.  It’s ok.  There’s a reason you keep getting the sign.  Not quitting and soldiering on might seem courageous, but your mental “check engine” light comes on for a reason.  And just like ignoring the one on your dash, you do so at the risk of making things worse.

So know when to say when.  Even if you think people will be disappointed in that decision.  Because in the end it doesn’t matter what they think.  You’re the one who has to live with the consequences of your decision.  So make the right choice and quit when you need to.  Waiting until you’re forced to just isn’t the right when.  Have a great day.  Peace.

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A long time ago I used to go to college. This was the late 90’s early 2000’s.  Because the university I went to was in a city 150 miles from where I graduated I opted to live in student housing.  I also worked for the university in a few different positions, including the front desk of the hall I lived in.

One of the better parts of the job was getting to greet almost all the residents.  I say almost all because there were those dedicated few who just didn’t want to socialize and would go so far as to ignore people who talked to them.  I respected their right to solitude and quickly learned the few and would only look up to see if they were walking by or up to the desk.  If they were clearly walking by I’d look back at what I was doing, usually studying, and leave them be.

And then there was the other end of the spectrum.  The super sociable who loved to be greeted back home each time they walked in the door.  My favorite being a guy named John.  He’d say the same thing every time you greeted him with a “how are you doing today?”

“Peachy keen as always,” was the response every time.  Sunny day, “peachy keen as always.”  Rainy day, same thing.  At the beginning of the fall semester when it was still nice and warm outside he was “peachy keen as always.”  Then at the end of the semester when it was freezing cold and dark most of the day, same response.  There just wasn’t a time this guy wasn’t “peachy keen as always.”

We used to wonder if there was something wrong with him.  How could you be happy all the time?  It’s not natural, right?  I mean there had to be some events going on in this guy’s life that were not good.  Tragedy, in some form, befalls everyone.  How could he truly be “peachy keen as always?”

I get now what he got then.  He was always that way because he chose to be.  He decided that no matter what came his way he’d take it with a smile on his face.  Even the bad stuff.

We all have that choice.  We can’t decide what will or won’t happen to us, but we can decide how we’ll react.  Whether events rule us or we rule them.  When we decide to rule them our life truly can be grateful at all times, if that’s what we want.

It took me a while but I learned his lesson.  So the other day when I went to Starbucks in Athens, Alabama the barista asked me how I was doing.  And with great pleasure I responded, “peachy keen as always.”  I hope you come to feel that way too.  Have a great day.  Peace.

Weekly Vlog Up On YouTube 2019-03-13   Leave a comment

This week’s vlog is up on YouTube.  It’s about what’s important to you. We are often told what is and isn’t important in life from the perspective of others or society.  None of that is important.  You have to decide what is and isn’t important to you and prioritize what is.  Leave a comment letting me know if you agree or disagree.  Leave a like if you enjoyed the video.  Subscribe and click the bell if you want to be immediately notified every time I upload a video to YouTube.  I hope you’re having a great day.  See you soon.  Peace.

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Having a rainy day is ok if you can see the silver lining.  Take today for example, was a literally rainy day.  I had decided earlier in the day that I would do a jump rope workout today.  I was getting ready to do it when I heard the sound of pitter patter on the roof.  It was raining outside.  It would have been easy to decide to do an easier indoor workout.  In fact I had contemplated the idea.  And then I realized it’s just a little rain.  I had decided to do a jump rope workout for a reason.  It burns more calories and strengthens the body due to the impact from jumping.

The downside of not working out with the jump rope was fewer calories burned and less progress in my fitness program.  The downside of doing the jump rope workout was I’d get wet.  Getting wet seemed the lesser evil so I grabbed the rope and went outside.  It was a better workout than I had imagined.  That was the silver lining.

For one, going out in the rain to work out showed willpower.  And willpower is a muscle all its own.  The more you work it out the stronger it gets.  And with it the positive mindset and happiness of knowing you did the right thing.

Second, I had to learn to adapt with the jump rope.  The rope I use outside is a leather jump rope.  And the thing I learned today using the rope in the rain is that the leather jump rope absorbs water really well.  And that throws off the timing because the rope got heavier as the workout moved forward.  It was fun having to mindfully adjust to the changes as the rope got heavier.

Next, along with the rain was the wind.  That throws the motion of the rope off a bit, too.  Unlike the rain which slowly made the rope consistently heavier the wind picks up and recedes so the effect was erratic.  Again, it taught me to be more mindful of how the rope was swinging and how I was controlling it.  Bonus.

And finally, the rope wasn’t the only thing getting heavier.  I was.  As the rain soaked my clothes I was getting a little heavier.  Not a lot mind you. It wasn’t like the rain added 20 pounds or anything.  But as the workout went on and I was naturally getting more tired it did make it a little more taxing then if I had jump roped on a dry day.  So it took the workout up a notch.

So there you have it.  A rainy day didn’t have to be a bad day.  In fact it was a great day because it made me a little stronger and a little better.  The silver lining in the rain cloud.  Hope you had a great day, rain or shine.  See you soon.  Peace.