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Interview Results   2 comments

So I did hear back from them today.  The guy who called was not one of the ones who interviewed me.  He told me I wasn’t chosen for the job at this time.  There was some good news in it.  While I had went to the open interview based on a news blurb on a local TV station, I hadn’t really gotten a chance to look at a job listing.  So I did have some questions that I wasn’t able to ask in the format of the interview I went to.

I know the company will put out another notice for hiring soon, so this time I will get to read the notice.  The notice will hopefully answer my questions.

The other bit of good news is that while I was turned down, the guy who called did offer this information.  The ones who did interview me had told him to make sure to tell me that I should keep an eye on their Facebook page.  I should do this because they would be having another job fair/interview session soon.  They told him to pass along that I should definitely come back and interview again.

I don’t remember exactly the words the gentleman used, but I was definitely left with the impression that if I came back again the next time they were hiring, I would be getting a job.  Might be reading into it, or hearing what I want to hear, but it’s just how it sounded to me.

The big thing about the whole situation is that, while I of course would have liked to hear that I got the job, I didn’t react negatively to the news.  I accepted that I hadn’t been chosen, and that there was likely a good reason at this time for that.  I’m doing better at realizing things happen for a reason.  I don’t always get to know the reason, but there is a reason.

So I will continue to do some job hunting.  I got a new application in today.  I still have a couple of outstanding applications for jobs nearby where I already work.  So, despite today’s bad news, things feel like they’re moving in the right direction.  As I get more news on my job hunting journey I’ll post it here.  So for now, I’ll bid you a good day, and I’ll see you soon.

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Quick Thought   Leave a comment

In the United States yesterday it was Thanksgiving. A day to spend being thankful for all the blessings you’ve received. Here’s the thing, you can be thankful any day, and every day. Whether you live in the U.S. or not. So why wait for that one day a year. Find things to be thankful for every day. After all you attract into your life what your mind dwells on. Have a great day.

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Your Inner Voice   Leave a comment

Have you ever started doing something and for some reason it just started feeling like a bad idea?  Have you ever wanted to buy something and you get this nagging sensation that you shouldn’t?  Have you met someone before that seemed nice enough to you but for some reason you just feel uncomfortable around them?

I think we all would answer yes to those questions.  We don’t know how we know, or why we know, but sometimes we just know things are amiss.  That knowledge is coming from your inner voice.  And the reason why we don’t know how or why we feel a certain way is because we sometimes do a bad job of listening to our inner voice.

Why is that?  It’s our inner voice, so surely it’s working in our best interest.  It’s a part of us so we should be able to trust it.  And we probably would if we recognized it as our voice.  The problem is that we don’t hear it clearly so we dismiss it as nerves, or a chill in the room.  We rationalize it away because our conscious mind has come to a conclusion on the subject and we accept it must be the right one.

So why would our inner voice be at odds with our conscious mind?  Because our conscious mind is easily swayed in the direction we want to go.  When you started doing whatever it was you’re doing right now your conscious mind had a “good” reason for doing it.  You don’t just start doing something for no reason at all.  Your conscious mind decided this was the action you’ll take because it viewed it as the correct action.  It’s therefor biased towards that decision.  Or when you go to the store to get something your conscious mind has already decided that it should purchase that item.  The decision is already made presumably with rational facts to back it up.  And when you’ve already decided you like someone then surely they must be a good person.  Your conscious mind wouldn’t allow you to befriend a bad person.  And you’re a pretty smart cookie so it isn’t likely they could be fooling you into thinking their nice when they aren’t.

Your conscious mind is acting on the principle of confirmation bias.  It will seek out all the facts that justify its position.  Finding facts to support your position is a good thing.  At least it is when you aren’t overlooking facts that suggest you’re wrong.  That’s confirmation bias.  We only accept the facts that confirm our point of view.

Your inner voice is different.  It’s your subconscious mind.  It isn’t interested in right or wrong.  It’s merely going by what history tells it.  It will access all the information pertinent to a decision, whether it confirms a position or not.  It’s noticing all the facts and is seeing something wrong.  So when it’s giving you that off putting feeling about the person you’re talking to it’s because it knows from previous patterns that there’s something wrong with this guy.  It doesn’t care that he “seems nice” or comes off as a “good guy”.  It is picking up on subtle hints that your conscious mind is overlooking that lets it know there’s reason to be concerned.

It’s like your own built-in “spidey sense.”  You just have to tune in to it.  How do you learn to hear your inner voice more clearly?  The same way you hear outer voices better.  You stop and listen.  If you get that tingly feeling at the back of your neck, question why.  If you’re looking at that new TV you wanted and something about it doesn’t feel right, pause a moment and ask yourself “what am I missing?”  And then listen to what your inner voice tells you.  You don’t have to blindly follow everything it says, just give it a chance to be heard.

Another way to hear your inner voice better is similar to what you do when you are trying to listen to music or are on a phone call in a noisy environment.  You change your location to a quieter one.  The way you change to a quieter location in your mind is through meditation.  Breathe in and out slowly and rhythmically, focusing on your breath.  When you feel your body relaxing let your mind relax as well.  As thoughts pop into your head that aren’t related to what you’re trying to figure out just gently release them without judgement.  When your body is relaxed and your mind is calm start asking yourself questions about the area you’re looking for insight into.  Do this often enough and it will become a habit where you can quickly slip into the relaxed and self-aware state.

Like many changes you can make in your life, if you’ve been ignoring your inner voice for a long time it’ll take a while to get back into the habit of listening to it.  But it’s a habit worth spending time on developing.  Your inner voice can be a great and helpful guide if you allow it to be in your life.  As with all things the choice is yours.  Have a nice day.