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Knowing When To Say When.   2 comments

We’re all familiar with the phrase “nobody likes a quitter.”  It’s said like it’s an absolute.  Under no situations should you quit otherwise you’ll risk alienating yourself from others.  Of course we understand there are exceptions.  You won’t be looked down upon if you quit smoking.  In that case being a quitter is fine.  Mainly it refers to tasks you start that you should, in “nobody”s opinion be able to complete.

Well I’m not a big believer in “nobody likes a quitter.”  I’m more inclined to side with another common phrase “know when to say when.”  You see there are many occasions when knowing when to quit is actually a good thing for you.

Anybody who has watched Wheel of Fortune should get this.  How many times have you seen a contestant with a decent amount of money spin the wheel again because there is still money to be made.  And how many times has that decision ended in ruin when they hit the bankrupt wedge on the wheel.  That person didn’t know when to say when.

Now I’m assuming in most people’s lives the Wheel of Fortune example won’t be particularly relevant consider the very small percentage of the population that winds up on the show.  So what would be a more relevant example for the average person?  I’ll give two that happened to me in the last week.

First, I was doing a jump rope workout and it was going pretty well.  And then I tweaked my left ankle.  And that’s my “bad ankle.”  I was born club footed there and the surgery to correct it has left it a little weak.  That makes it easy to tweak.  Now the “nobody likes a quitter” group would tell me to cowboy up.  No pain, no gain.  But in reality I was feeling pain for a reason.  Now sometimes I feel the pain and it goes right away, so I kept going for a little longer.  But the pain didn’t go away.  So I knew it was time to stop.  I quit because I listened to my body.  It was telling me enough.  If I kept going, which I could have done, I risked making it worse.  And then I might be affecting other areas of my life if I couldn’t walk because I injured my ankle.  I knew it was time to say when.

Second, I fast regularly.  It isn’t a problem for me.  Usually it isn’t, anyway.  But the other day I felt something I don’t usually feel anymore.  Hunger.  Being keto adapted my body can generally find all the energy it needs from my onboard fat storage.  So fasting is pretty easy for a day or two.  This time I hadn’t even reached a day and I was struggling.  Now I didn’t just give in the moment I felt hunger.  I gave it some time.  Drank a glass of water to fill my stomach.  Played a video game to take my mind off of it for a little while.  The hunger didn’t go away.  So having done what should have gotten me past a psychological craving for food I knew my body was telling me a fast was a bad idea.  So I quit.  I don’t know why this one was difficult, but my body was telling me it was.

In both cases I made an effort to continue.  I’m certainly not arguing you should stop at the first sign of trouble in whatever you’re trying to accomplish.  But if you’ve given it a good faith effort and you’re still getting the signs that you need to stop doing what you’re doing, then quit.  It’s ok.  There’s a reason you keep getting the sign.  Not quitting and soldiering on might seem courageous, but your mental “check engine” light comes on for a reason.  And just like ignoring the one on your dash, you do so at the risk of making things worse.

So know when to say when.  Even if you think people will be disappointed in that decision.  Because in the end it doesn’t matter what they think.  You’re the one who has to live with the consequences of your decision.  So make the right choice and quit when you need to.  Waiting until you’re forced to just isn’t the right when.  Have a great day.  Peace.

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Weekly Vlog Up On YouTube 2019-03-13   Leave a comment

This week’s vlog is up on YouTube.  It’s about what’s important to you. We are often told what is and isn’t important in life from the perspective of others or society.  None of that is important.  You have to decide what is and isn’t important to you and prioritize what is.  Leave a comment letting me know if you agree or disagree.  Leave a like if you enjoyed the video.  Subscribe and click the bell if you want to be immediately notified every time I upload a video to YouTube.  I hope you’re having a great day.  See you soon.  Peace.

You’ve Been There The Whole Time   4 comments

No matter who you can think of, nobody has spent more time with you than you.  Even dear old Mom hasn’t.  Sure, the two of you hung out together for around 9 months at the beginning of things for you.  She was definitely there for your birth.  But from that point forward it’s highly unlikely she’s been there every moment of your life.  No matter who it is, even if they were there the moment you were born and have been around in your life since, hasn’t been there for everything.

Why do I mention this?  Because we get a lot of advice from well-meaning, well-intentioned people, including dear old Mom.  They give this advice based on their best understanding of us.  But try as they might, they’ll never understand you as well as you can.  And sometimes the people giving the unsolicited advice aren’t well-meaning or well-intentioned.

You see, baring some sort of issue related to amnesia, you’re the only one with all the facts of your life.  More importantly, even if there was someone who has managed to be in the same space as you all your life, they still don’t have the insights of what has gone on in your head.  How did each and every one of those moments make you feel?  What impact did they have on your drive and focus?  What things did you consider impactful and what things did you dismiss out of hand?

All of that relevant information is contained in just one individual.  You.  So answer me this.  If nobody else has as great an understanding of you as you do, why do you hold their opinion of you higher than your own?

When someone tells you that you can’t do something, how do they know that better than you?  When someone tries to downplay your dreams as unreasonable, who are they to say it?  Or when someone cruelly tells you that you aren’t good enough, or worthy enough, or pretty enough why would you listen to what they think about you over what you know?

Why indeed.  The answer of course is you shouldn’t.  If you’re happy with who you are don’t worry about what other people think of you.  They don’t know you like you know you.  If you have a dream that others tell you is silly, who cares?  It isn’t their dream, so why would they be as invested in it as you are.  If you’re happy with the way you look and how you feel, never be swayed by the opinions of others who try to tell you otherwise.  Even friends and family who have the best of intentions for you.

Because in the end why would you care about the opinion of someone who is, regardless of intention, trying to bring you down?  You’re a light in this world, never forget that.  So don’t worry about the fog of negativity people like that try to shroud you in.  Burn brightly like you know you can and be a beacon to others.  Have a great and bright day.