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Isn’t Your Life Path More Important Than A Physical Path?   Leave a comment

So I’ve been in Orlando (well technically Lake Buena Vista) for just under a week now.  I’ve spent most of the time here at the Sheraton Orlando Lake Buena Vista Resort as this is both where I’m staying and where the training is being held.

There are a lot of options for feeding myself around here and I’ve gotten to them just by walking there.  The weather has been most agreeable to walking from place to place.  I’ve also walked down to the local Winn Dixie to obtain stuff I’ve needed.

Now I’m still relatively new here so I’m still occasionally getting mixed up about what direction I’m headed.  This morning after trying a different place to eat (the Black Angus Steakhouse nearby had a wonderful breakfast buffet I wanted to try) I needed to go to the Winn Dixie to get some heavy cream for my coffee.  So I started walking and when I got to Palm Parkway I turned left and headed toward the Winn Dixie.

I was walking down the road when I realized it didn’t feel right.  I stopped, looked around, and realized I had gone the wrong way.  Realizing my mistake I kept going down the wrong path, farther and farther away from the my destination.

Of course that’s not really what I did.  Upon realizing my mistake I turned back around and when I got back to the intersection I went the correct way.  It’s only common sense.  And yet when it comes to our life’s direction we seem oddly content to do what I had suggested I did.

We are creatures of habit and even when we know that the direction we are metaphorically headed is moving us away from the place we want to be in life, for some reason we just keep walking down the same path.  How do we do that?  We associate with the same people who led us to where we are in life.  We engage in the same activities that have not gotten us the results we want.  We think the same thoughts about ourselves that have led to the devaluation of worth we feel towards ourselves.

So think about this.  If you’d feel silly continuing to walk down a physical path that you know doesn’t lead to the physical location you want to be, why are you content to stay on a life path taking you from the life you want?

Look at the life path you are on.  Do your friends help you get to the life you want?  If you answered no, maybe they aren’t the friends you need.  Do you engage in activities which move you closer to the life you want?  If you don’t, figure out the activities that do.  You only have 24 hours a day.  Fill those hours with activities that create the life you should know you deserve.

Do your thoughts move you forward on your life path?  They should.  If they don’t start paying attention to your self talk.  When thoughts creep in that have you taking the wrong turn at an intersection, get your bearing and replace them with the thoughts that have you moving down the correct path.

Don’t settle for less in walking your life path than you would walking a physical path.  Being on the wrong physical path just wastes your time.  Being on the wrong life path wastes something a lot more valuable.  Hope you have a great week walking the path taking you to the life of your dreams.  Peace.

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You’ve Been There The Whole Time   4 comments

No matter who you can think of, nobody has spent more time with you than you.  Even dear old Mom hasn’t.  Sure, the two of you hung out together for around 9 months at the beginning of things for you.  She was definitely there for your birth.  But from that point forward it’s highly unlikely she’s been there every moment of your life.  No matter who it is, even if they were there the moment you were born and have been around in your life since, hasn’t been there for everything.

Why do I mention this?  Because we get a lot of advice from well-meaning, well-intentioned people, including dear old Mom.  They give this advice based on their best understanding of us.  But try as they might, they’ll never understand you as well as you can.  And sometimes the people giving the unsolicited advice aren’t well-meaning or well-intentioned.

You see, baring some sort of issue related to amnesia, you’re the only one with all the facts of your life.  More importantly, even if there was someone who has managed to be in the same space as you all your life, they still don’t have the insights of what has gone on in your head.  How did each and every one of those moments make you feel?  What impact did they have on your drive and focus?  What things did you consider impactful and what things did you dismiss out of hand?

All of that relevant information is contained in just one individual.  You.  So answer me this.  If nobody else has as great an understanding of you as you do, why do you hold their opinion of you higher than your own?

When someone tells you that you can’t do something, how do they know that better than you?  When someone tries to downplay your dreams as unreasonable, who are they to say it?  Or when someone cruelly tells you that you aren’t good enough, or worthy enough, or pretty enough why would you listen to what they think about you over what you know?

Why indeed.  The answer of course is you shouldn’t.  If you’re happy with who you are don’t worry about what other people think of you.  They don’t know you like you know you.  If you have a dream that others tell you is silly, who cares?  It isn’t their dream, so why would they be as invested in it as you are.  If you’re happy with the way you look and how you feel, never be swayed by the opinions of others who try to tell you otherwise.  Even friends and family who have the best of intentions for you.

Because in the end why would you care about the opinion of someone who is, regardless of intention, trying to bring you down?  You’re a light in this world, never forget that.  So don’t worry about the fog of negativity people like that try to shroud you in.  Burn brightly like you know you can and be a beacon to others.  Have a great and bright day.