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I have a friend who has a favorite statement, “It is what it is.”  The phrase is certainly not his creation, nor is it unique to him, but I would definitely call it his catch phrase.  It’s his go to response when something bad happens.  And it’s a very stoic response.  Good, bad, or ugly a situation is what it is and you just have to accept it as is.

Or do you?  While I appreciate the sentiment, that there’s no use getting mad about a situation that has already happened, it’s not entirely true.  A better way of phrasing the thought would be “It is what you make it.”

Viewing things as “It is what it is” suggests that you have absolutely no control in the situation.  It’s totally beyond you.  But in all situations you always have one absolute level of control, and that’s how you respond to it.

For example, you just got off of work and are ready to head home when you go out to your car and one of the tires is flat.  “It is what it is” reminds you that getting mad about the flat tire doesn’t fix it.  “It is what it is” reminds you that being mad won’t make changing the tire any easier.  In fact, getting mad could make it worse.  Certainly there isn’t anything wrong with responding to the situation with an “It is what it is” attitude and just fixing the flat in peace.

But what if you had an “It is what you make it” attitude?  Instead of this being a flat you just have to take care of, you could view it as a way to test your life skills.  You don’t change the tire very often so now you get to take a moment to show that you are self-sufficient.  You could ask a coworker to stick around and keep you company while you change the tire.  It is what you made it, a chance to socialize with your coworker.  If your coworker can’t stay, is there some problem you’ve been meaning to devote some time to?  If it is what you make it, this time just became thoughtful time to work on that problem.

While accepting things for what they are in an emotionally even way is a good thing, why not choose to take control instead?  It is what it is can be good, but why settle for good?  Choose it to be what you make it to be and make it great.  Have a great day.  Peace.

 

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Every year on this day, those who celebrate Christmas enjoy a day of giving and receiving. Whether it be with friends or family we love coming together to swap gifts and share a delicious meal.  Christmas is a very special day and I love taking part in it.

But it’s just one day out of the whole year. Of course we also just had Thanksgiving in the United States, where we spend time remembering all the things we’re grateful for.  On July 4th, also in the United States, we celebrate our freedom.  Now we’re up to three.

There are a few other holidays we celebrate every year here in the United States.  And in other countries they have holidays to remember important historical events or times to focus on aspects their lives.

So the question is, what are you doing with the other days?  While placing gifts under the Christmas Tree is a fun tradition, why wait until Christmas to give a gift to someone you love?  And wouldn’t the world be a better place if we didn’t always wait for December 25th to wish for peace on Earth and good will to all men?

How much better do you think your life would be if instead of waiting for every Thanksgiving to remember what blessings you’ve been granted in your life, you took stock of that every day?  Or instead of having a big meal with the whole family once a year, how better in touch would you be if you did it once a month?

Don’t get me wrong.  There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having these special days to call special attention to these thoughts and feelings.  But there’s also nothing wrong with having these feelings and embracing them every day of the year.

So be thankful for your blessings every day.  And two months from now if you find a wonderful gift your friend would just love, go ahead and give it to them now.  There’s just no wrong time of the year for happiness.  Have a great day.