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Archive for the ‘self improvement’ Tag

Quick Thought 2019-04-02   Leave a comment

I’m 48 years old.  In less than half a year I turn 49.  By conventional wisdom I’m supposed to be too old for a lot of things.  Statistically speaking the better part of my life, time wise, is over.  I’m heading into the period of winding down and accepting what life has given me.

At the beginning of last year, when I was 47, I started my ketogenic journey.  Now I haven’t been able to weigh myself in the last two Mondays because I’m away on training.  But as of my last weigh in two weeks ago I was just shy of 100 pounds lighter than when I started.  But I’m supposed to be too old to lose weight.  It’s just too hard at my age.

Up until last year I spoke only one language.  Ok, technically speaking that’s still true.  I’m only fluent in English.  But I’m working on learning Portuguese, German, and Spanish.  Saturday morning I took an Uber ride with a woman who is a native Spanish speaker and she complimented me on my pronunciation skills.  I’m not fluent by any stretch of the imagination.  In fact I’d say I have a long ways to go to get that level in any of the three languages.  But I’m clearly able to take in a new language and do it correctly.  But I’m not supposed to because I’m too old to learn new things.  In fact it’s at this point that they say I should expect my faculties to start declining.

And job wise I just started a new career.  I’m here doing my training as we speak.  At a time when I’m supposed to be on the glide slope toward retirement at a career, I’m just taking off.  But I’m supposed to be too old to be considering starting over in a job.  I don’t have the years left in me to have a full career if I start over today.

But I’m choosing to get into shape.  I’m choosing to learn new tricks.  I’m choosing to start over.  Why?  I don’t know how much longer I have on this planet.  None of us does.  I could be half my age right now and still could be gone tomorrow.  So I choose not to plan based off of a predetermined schedule that’s been arbitrarily foisted on me.  I don’t worry if I have enough time to complete the tasks.  I just worry about today.

And today I’ve decided I’d like to go to bed tonight a little bit better a person than I started this morning.  Today I’ve decided that I don’t want to waste any of the time I have left on silly things that don’t make me better.  After all I don’t know how much more of that time I have.  Today I’ve decided I’ll start walking down paths that make me happier, including career paths.  I don’t know how far I’ll get down the path before my time comes up, but who cares.  I’d rather spend however much time I do have left on a happy path than I would being given twice as much time to walk down a miserable path.

Wake up each day with one mission.  Be happy today.  It doesn’t matter where you are in life.  The beginning, the middle, or supposedly near the end.  Take whatever time you have left, long or short, and just use it to be happy.  Even if you’re supposed to be too old to start over, do it anyway if you aren’t happy with the way things are.  Better to go out smiling not reaching your new goal than to go out sad living up to the expectations of acting your age.

Here’s to a new and brighter future at any age.  Have a great day.  Peace.

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Quick Thought 2019-03-31   Leave a comment

This morning I wanted to try a place for breakfast that would have taken almost an hour to walk to.  And then of course almost another hour walking back.  So instead I decided I’d just take an Uber.  When my driver arrived I hopped into the front seat and off we went.

She asked me how my day was going and I told her it was going great.  We then spent the 10 minute drive having a wonderful conversation.  I got out of the car and wished her a good day, with her stating she hoped I had one as well.  I then went in and had a great breakfast.  Of course on the way back I got another Uber, but this time it was a different driver.

He smiled politely as I entered the car but didn’t talk.  I asked him how his day was and he replied “Good, you?”  I said “good” and left it at that.  He gave the appearance of someone not wanting to talk a lot.  We drove quietly for the 10 minute ride back to the hotel.  As I got out he wished me a nice day, and I wished him one in return.

The first one was very nice and sociable.  Outgoing and chatty.  The second one was also nice, just not chatty.  And there’s nothing wrong with that.  He wasn’t rude because he didn’t talk or entertain me.  That isn’t his job.  His job is to get me from one location to the next.

It’s easy to view one as positive and one as negative because as humans we love to rate things. But there’s another way to handle it, and that’s to accept each person as they are.  No need to judge them at all, good or bad.

If someone is nice to you, be nice back.  If they want to chat, enjoy the conversation.  On the other hand if they don’t want to chat, just respect that enjoy the quiet.

But here’s the tough one.  What if they’re mean or rude?  Leave it at they’re behaving in a way you don’t want to interact with.  You don’t have to rate their behavior as bad.  You don’t have to rate them as bad.  You just have to decide what you want to do.  Which in that case may be to stop interacting with that person.

Why do it this way?  Because it reminds you that you’re in charge.  When you assign the label of bad to them you’re reacting to their behavior.  Because they were bad you don’t wish to associate with them.  Their action determined your behavior.  They were in charge.  When you decide to not associate with them without labeling them the decision is based off of you and your desires.  You’re in control of your life as you should be.

Let me know what you think.  Agree or disagree?  I hope you enjoyed this quick thought.  See you again soon.  Peace.

Isn’t Your Life Path More Important Than A Physical Path?   Leave a comment

So I’ve been in Orlando (well technically Lake Buena Vista) for just under a week now.  I’ve spent most of the time here at the Sheraton Orlando Lake Buena Vista Resort as this is both where I’m staying and where the training is being held.

There are a lot of options for feeding myself around here and I’ve gotten to them just by walking there.  The weather has been most agreeable to walking from place to place.  I’ve also walked down to the local Winn Dixie to obtain stuff I’ve needed.

Now I’m still relatively new here so I’m still occasionally getting mixed up about what direction I’m headed.  This morning after trying a different place to eat (the Black Angus Steakhouse nearby had a wonderful breakfast buffet I wanted to try) I needed to go to the Winn Dixie to get some heavy cream for my coffee.  So I started walking and when I got to Palm Parkway I turned left and headed toward the Winn Dixie.

I was walking down the road when I realized it didn’t feel right.  I stopped, looked around, and realized I had gone the wrong way.  Realizing my mistake I kept going down the wrong path, farther and farther away from the my destination.

Of course that’s not really what I did.  Upon realizing my mistake I turned back around and when I got back to the intersection I went the correct way.  It’s only common sense.  And yet when it comes to our life’s direction we seem oddly content to do what I had suggested I did.

We are creatures of habit and even when we know that the direction we are metaphorically headed is moving us away from the place we want to be in life, for some reason we just keep walking down the same path.  How do we do that?  We associate with the same people who led us to where we are in life.  We engage in the same activities that have not gotten us the results we want.  We think the same thoughts about ourselves that have led to the devaluation of worth we feel towards ourselves.

So think about this.  If you’d feel silly continuing to walk down a physical path that you know doesn’t lead to the physical location you want to be, why are you content to stay on a life path taking you from the life you want?

Look at the life path you are on.  Do your friends help you get to the life you want?  If you answered no, maybe they aren’t the friends you need.  Do you engage in activities which move you closer to the life you want?  If you don’t, figure out the activities that do.  You only have 24 hours a day.  Fill those hours with activities that create the life you should know you deserve.

Do your thoughts move you forward on your life path?  They should.  If they don’t start paying attention to your self talk.  When thoughts creep in that have you taking the wrong turn at an intersection, get your bearing and replace them with the thoughts that have you moving down the correct path.

Don’t settle for less in walking your life path than you would walking a physical path.  Being on the wrong physical path just wastes your time.  Being on the wrong life path wastes something a lot more valuable.  Hope you have a great week walking the path taking you to the life of your dreams.  Peace.

Weekly Weigh In 2019-03-25   Leave a comment

Sorry about going dark the last few days.  I was getting ready for my trip here to Orlando, FL where I’m at training for my new job.  As such I don’t have the scale with me so no numbers for this week, just a quick check in.  Now that I’m situated here at the hotel I’ll try to be better about posting daily.  If I miss a day I hope you’ll understand as the priority has to be the training right now.  Hope you’re having a great day.  I know I am.  It’s always fun being to a new city with new things and places to explore.  Peace.

Weekly Vlog is up on YouTube 2019-03-20   Leave a comment

This week’s vlog is up and running.  It’s on fasting.  It covers the different ways to fast and the different time frames for a fast.  Let me know what you think.  If you enjoyed the video please leave a Like on YouTube for me.  If you have an agreement, or disagreement, with the video, please leave a comment here or there.  Subscribe and click the bell on YouTube if you want to be immediately notified every time I post a video to YouTube.  Have a great week.  Peace.

Weekly Weigh In 2019-03-18   Leave a comment

Here is my weekly weigh in video.  Very happy with this week’s results.  Also happy with a new product I’m trying.  Watch the video to get the low down on how things went this past week.  If you enjoy the video please leave a Like.  Subscribe and click the notification bell on YouTube if you’re interested in being immediately notified every time I upload a video to YouTube.  Hope you’re having a great day and a great week.  Peace.

Quick Thought 2019-03-18   1 comment

Have you ever been driving down the road and all of a sudden you realize you’re way farther down the road than you expected?  Perhaps you’ve been “working” in your office when you notice an hour has gone by and your cursor is still in the same spot on your monitor as the last time you looked.  Or here’s an embarrassing one.  You’re talking with someone when you realize they’re looking at you, waiting for your to respond.  Problem is you have no idea what they just said.  The bottom line in all three cases is that your mind wandered.  It happens to most people, so nothing to feel bad about.  We all lose focus from time to time.  The funny part is that we often don’t even recall our train of thought when we have these lapses in awareness.  So here’s a fun little suggestion for figuring out what you spend your time thinking about when your mind wanders and you don’t know where it’s been.

Either on your phone or watch set a timer for a random amount of time.  By random I mean avoid times like 15 minutes or  2 hours.  Times when you’ll see the alarm coming, like on the hour or half hour.  You want the alarm to be a surprise, out of the blue.  It’s even better if you can find an app that will alert you at random times during the day.

Every time the alarm goes off, jot down what you were thinking right then.  Don’t analyze or critique it, just write it down.  If the alarm goes off and you were wondering if Darth Maul could take Darth Vader in a fight, write that down.  If you were wondering where all those extra socks you lose in the dryer go, write that down.  Do this over the course of a few days.  After a few days logging go back and review what you’ve written down.

Now go an extra step.  Would you classify the majority of thoughts as happy, sad, or random?  While random thoughts, like is it better to put the toilet paper on the roller overhanded or underhanded in orientation, don’t hurt you, they don’t really help you either.  If your thoughts are predominantly sad or angry, why?  Is life really that bad?  Maybe you should police your thoughts better.  Focus more on happy thoughts.

Were the majority of the thoughts positive, happy, or uplifting?  Then good for you.  If you’re writing these down at random and it’s coming up mostly happy that means your mind spends a lot of time in your happy place.  Be proud of that.

Either way you get a good glimpse into what’s going on upstairs when you don’t even realize it.  Do this exercise from time to time to get a gauge of where you are.  Because whether you know your thoughts or not, what you keep your mind on you attract into your life.  Best to keep it positive then.  Have a happy day.  A happy week.  And hopefully a happy life.  Peace.