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Suppose you just asked for what you wanted?   Leave a comment

Consider this.  You’re driving down the road with the stereo on.  It’s tuned to a station playing exactly the kind of music you love.  Or perhaps its a talk radio station.  Whatever it is, you enjoy it immensely.  As luck would have it, you have your smart phone there with you too.  So you pull it out and start playing a station or podcast with similar content at the same time.  Now you’re really enjoying the drive listening to two different sources of entertainment or information at the same time.  It’s like stereo, only better.

Of course I’m being silly.  Having two different stations going on at the same time would only be confusing.  You couldn’t possibly enjoy one station or the other because the one broadcast would interfere with the other. To get good entertainment “results” in this situation you need to have one radio tuned to one station.  So how do you pick that station?  You need to focus on not just what sounds good, but what is truly informing or entertaining you.

Silly as this scenario sounds, it’s exactly what we do all the time with the Law of Attraction (LOA).  We focus on many things at once and we often play conflicting messages.  Each comes with its own set of problems.

First up, we focus on too many things at once.  Instead of focusing on one goal and devoting our attention to it, we take the shotgun approach.  Just blast a lot of mental buckshot out there hoping to hit something.  The problem with buckshot though is it’s only truly effective at shorter ranges.  If you want to hit a specific target at a distance you want one well targeted round.

So instead of using the LOA to attract health and wealth and relationships and cars and mansions and whatever, take time to aim the LOA.  Pick a target.  A specific target.  And zero in on it.  If health is your target of choice, what constitutes a bullseye for you?  Is it being able to go the whole day feeling full of energy?  Is it running very fast?  Is it having chiseled cheeks and six-pack abs?  Don’t just go for the target, go for the bullseye.   Put time in considering what it is your truly want.  Then focus your mind on it.  Visualize yourself as that specific view of “healthy” you have for yourself.  Meditate on it for some time in the morning, and then again before bed.  Perhaps even throw in some visualizations throughout the day.  Not to excess mind you.  As any marksman will tell you, you can aim the bullet only so well.  At some point you need to pull the trigger and let the round fly towards the target.  So put in a little effort a few times a day and then let it go and see what happens.  Once you’ve gotten what you desired from the LOA, then go on to the next target.  It gets a little easier each time, just like shooting.  The more you hit a bullseye the more confident you are that you can do it again, which improves your results.

The second issue we have is conflicting messages.  A prime example of this is what most people want to use the LOA for, a big pile of cash.  Well why do you want a big pile of cash?  A big pile of cash in itself doesn’t do anything good for you.  It’s only good if you spend it, and then it isn’t a pile anymore.  So what do you really want with your pile of cash?  Is it a Tesla?  Well focus on the Tesla then.  If you send out the desire for a big pile of cash to the LOA it’ll be confused by the side broadcast about the Tesla.  Have you ever tuned your radio to a frequency that is close to two different stations?  Didn’t work so well did it?  It’s the same for the LOA.  If it’s receiving interference from what you say you want, it can’t materialize what you do want.

And this works for another reason.  Let’s say that you focus on your big pile of cash.  But that isn’t your real goal.  Your real goal is feeling safe because you don’t want to worry about having enough money to survive.  The LOA is getting a mixed message, one part of which is a big pile of cash.  So it’s going to do it’s best with the mixed signal to get you a pile of cash.  But even if it does cut through the static and crossed signals that’s just one avenue of “safety.”  Suppose you just asked for what you really wanted, safety?  Then the LOA is open to provide anything that gets you your safety.  It could provide you with a nicer apartment in a better neighborhood at a cheaper rent.  It could provide you with a more reliable car won through a contest.  It could provide you with a better job or a promotion.  Because you just asked for what you really wanted, safety, the LOA is wide open in how it can provide that for you.

So take a little time and ask yourself why you picked the target you did.  What is the true nature of that target that makes it of interest to you.  If you were initially interested in having the body of a Greek god, decide why.  If it’s really because you want to attract more women, use the LOA to ask for the women instead.  But maybe it isn’t the women you want but the love.  Even better, ask the LOA for love.  Let it decide the best way to provide that love to you.  Or maybe you really do want a big pile of money.  It’s ok to ask for that too, if that’s what you want.

Suppose you just asked the LOA for what you wanted.  Suppose you just asked the LOA for that one thing you wanted most, in specific detail.  I think when you can get to the point where you can focus on one desire and make it a true desire, that’s when you’ll go from supposing to succeeding.  The LOA is here to help you have a better life.  So why not help the LOA along by asking for just want you truly want.  Have a great day.

 

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Posted 10/28/2018 by senso1970 in Uncategorized

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Specificity   Leave a comment

One of the people I know loves to watch baseball.  Myself, I’m not a big fan of the sport, but I’ll watch it with her when she has it on.  She really gets into the game, including speaking to the television, encouraging her team on to greatness.  This led to a funny exchange the other day.

She was watching her team play and she said to the screen, “Ok, we need a hit here.”  After a few pitches the player hit the ball, right into an out.  She wasn’t happy about it and wondered what had just happened.  I said, “he did what you asked.”  She looked at me with an incredulous look.  “You asked for a hit and he did hit the ball.  You never specified what kind of hit you wanted.  Details matter.”  She looked at the screen and said “Ok, I want a home run.”  Sure enough, when the next player finally connected with the ball, he knocked it out of the park for a home run.  She looked over at me with amazement and I just repeated, “details matter.”

Now, I’m not claiming that she caused the home run.  I do believe in the law of attraction, but I doubt this was a case of it working.  I think it was more just a funny coincidence.  But it’s a funny coincidence that makes a great point.  Specificity in direction is important.  Details do indeed matter in life.  This is especially true in goal setting.  The more specific you are about your goal the better the chance you’ll realize it.  There are a number of reasons why this is true.

First, it really isn’t a meaningful goal if it isn’t a specific one.  Think about it.  How accomplished will you really feel if your goal today is to exercise?  It’s a very vague goal.  Pick up a semi heavy object and put it back down and you’ve essentially reached your goal.  Move ten feet farther than you needed to today to achieve your to do list and you’d have hit the goal as well.  But will you feel any sense of accomplishment meeting those benchmarks?  Probably not.  Now set the goal “I’m going to go on a 15 minute walk.”  That’s substantially more specific then “I’ll exercise today.”  It specifies not just that you’ll exercise but also what kind and for how long.  When you go out for that walk and return 15 minutes later you’ll feel a sense of accomplishment because you met a specific goal.  How strong a sense of course will depend on how much your goal pushes you to achieve it.  If you can easily walk 15 minutes then it’ll be a small sense of accomplishment.  If you’re just starting out and live most of your life sitting down, you’ll feel a great sense of accomplishment.

Second, details make it measurable.  “I’m going to make more money” is vague.  If I walk down the street and find a penny I’ve reached my goal.  I have more money then I did before.  I can stop trying now.  “I’m going to earn enough money to buy a ticket to go visit my friends in Alaska” is specific.  That penny I just found won’t cut it.  I could find a penny every day for a year and I wouldn’t even be able to buy a snack on the plane, let alone the ticket.  So I haven’t reached the measurement yet.  I need to keep going to reach my goal.  The goal posts are in a very specific location so I know how long to keep working at it.

Finally, to create a specific goal you’ll be required to think about it.  Using the first example, when creating an exercise goal you need to consider many factors.  What kind of fitness level are you trying to achieve?  Are you more interested in muscles or endurance?  Are you looking for fast results or do you have time to achieve your goal?  By considering all these factors you’re creating goals that are more relevant to you.  The more relevant the goal is to you the more likely you’ll achieve it.

You’re also going to create more reasonable goals when you think about them.  Using the second example, if you want to go visit your friends in Alaska you also have to consider different factors.  How will you get there?  Buses will get you there but will take days.  So flying would seem more reasonable.  How will you fly there?  Private charter would be really cool, but if you’re saving for the trip in the first place, it probably isn’t very reasonable.  First class tickets might be a bridge too far as well.  So now you’ve considered your options and your goal is to buy an economy ticket on a commercial airline by saving your money where you can.  That’s a very reasonable goal.  The more reasonable your goal is, the more you’ll believe in your ability to carry it out.  When you create unreasonable goals your subconscious knows you don’t stand a chance of making it and will sabotage every effort you make toward the goal.

So as you move forward into the future setting goals on how to improve your life, make them specific, measurable, and reasonable.  Give yourself every chance to succeed and you will.  Set yourself up for failure, and you’ll easily reach that goal too.  Me, I’m partial to hitting home runs.  Have a great day.