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Archive for the ‘why’ Tag

New Vlog up on YouTube   Leave a comment

This vlog is about knowing your why and how it helps you accomplish your goals.  It also covers why it isn’t necessary to understand other people’s why.  Let me know what you think in the comments below.  Also, I recorded the video using my Airpods, so feel free to let me know what you think about the audio quality.  If you like the video, please click on the link to take you to YouTube and leave a like and a comment there.  Subscribe and click the notification bell if you’d like to be immediately notified every time I upload a video.  Have a great day.

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New YouTube Video Up   Leave a comment

Just uploaded this weeks vlog to YouTube.  It’s about the people I subscribe to on YouTube and why I subscribe to them.  Check it out below.  If you like the video please go to YouTube and like and subscribe.  If you have any comments or suggestions on how I could improve the channel for you, or on the video itself, please leave them here and on the YouTube channel.  I get better by knowing how you react to the material I put out.  So all comments that are constructive, whether they be for kudos or criticisms, are welcome.  Hope you’re having a great day.

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Being Open to Positivity   Leave a comment

Along with my body I’ve been working on improving my mind.  This is both in the functional sense (reading faster, thinking more clearly, having better focus) and in the focal sense.  I’ve come to realize that there’s no point in creating a better body and a longer life if it’s going to be an unhappy one.  So I’ve worked hard at improving my mindset.

This has been done via a number of methods.  I meditate more.  I reorganize my thoughts to favor the positive.  I reject negative thoughts and negative conclusions.  And the more I do this the more I see things that reinforce a positive point of view.

In the movie Batman Begins, Alfred chides Batman about how he can’t be living a double life if he isn’t living the life of Bruce Wayne. He teases Bruce by saying “Who knows Master Wayne, if you start pretending to have fun, you might have a little by accident.”

Although meant as a playful jab, there’s a certain amount of truth to this.  Positivity is infectious.  If you start spending your time looking for the positives in life you’ll start seeing them more and more.  As Earl Nightingale said “you are now, and you do become, what you think about.”

The more you focus on the positive the more you see positive things.  The more positive things you see, the more positive you become.  The more positive you become the more you think positively, and the cycle repeats itself.  You just have to be open to being positive.

Many will look around at the state of the world, or the state of their life and ask, “what do I have to be positive about?”  It’s a great question to ask yourself, if you’re willing to answer it.

So here’s a little challenge for you this week.  Keep a little notebook on you.  Or if you prefer the tech route, start a new note or document on your phone.  I personally have a separate Evernote folder just for this challenge.  Every time you have something positive happen to you write it down.  It doesn’t have to be anything super special.  This is about writing down anything that you feel is a win.

Did someone smile at you for no reason?  Write it down.  Was the drive home a little quicker than usual, or the traffic a little lighter?  Put that on the list.  Perhaps you find a penny while walking into work today.  That counts too.  Anything where the needle moves towards the positive.  No matter how small.  If you’re not sure if it counts, write it down anyway.  Chances are if you had to wonder if it does, you think it could be a win.

After a week, go back and look at your list.  If you did a reasonably good job of remembering to write things down I’m betting you have a nice long list.  This is what you have to be positive about.  Over the next few weeks keep adding to the list.  Make it enough of a habit that you enjoy adding entries.  Add that you enjoy adding entries onto your list of positivity.  There’s really no wrong way to do this other than to not do it.

When you start going back each week and reviewing your list you’ll be amazed at just how many positive things happen to you all the time.  Take an example from me today.  I got an award at work today.  I met a cool bulldog named Leon.  A attractive woman looked my way and smiled.  The drive home was so easy because the traffic was light.  I met my fitness goal of closing all three rings today.  That’s five easy to find positives I had today.  That’s 35 for the week if I do it every day.  That’s a lot of positives that just happen to you if you bother to look.

And again, it’s all about what you focus on.  When you keep looking for positives you’ll keep finding them.  If you’re looking for positives you’ll also start overlooking negatives because you aren’t focusing on them anymore.  At a certain point if you keep looking for positives enough you might even accidentally feel positive.  Just kidding, you’ll feel positive but it won’t be an accident.  It’ll be a way of life for you.

“You are now, and you do become, what you think about.”  Blessed or cursed.  Happy or sad.  Positive or negative.  They’re your thoughts.  Choose the ones you want to live the life you desire.  It’s all in your hands.  Or your mind. However you want to look at it.  I recommend looking at it the positive way.  Have a great day.

New YouTube Video   Leave a comment

Here’s my latest video. Check it out. Go to YouTube and leave a like if you enjoyed it. Feel free to subscribe and get notifications if you want to keep up with me on YouTube.

https://youtu.be/ZgD7PpdfVfA

Your Inner Voice   Leave a comment

Have you ever started doing something and for some reason it just started feeling like a bad idea?  Have you ever wanted to buy something and you get this nagging sensation that you shouldn’t?  Have you met someone before that seemed nice enough to you but for some reason you just feel uncomfortable around them?

I think we all would answer yes to those questions.  We don’t know how we know, or why we know, but sometimes we just know things are amiss.  That knowledge is coming from your inner voice.  And the reason why we don’t know how or why we feel a certain way is because we sometimes do a bad job of listening to our inner voice.

Why is that?  It’s our inner voice, so surely it’s working in our best interest.  It’s a part of us so we should be able to trust it.  And we probably would if we recognized it as our voice.  The problem is that we don’t hear it clearly so we dismiss it as nerves, or a chill in the room.  We rationalize it away because our conscious mind has come to a conclusion on the subject and we accept it must be the right one.

So why would our inner voice be at odds with our conscious mind?  Because our conscious mind is easily swayed in the direction we want to go.  When you started doing whatever it was you’re doing right now your conscious mind had a “good” reason for doing it.  You don’t just start doing something for no reason at all.  Your conscious mind decided this was the action you’ll take because it viewed it as the correct action.  It’s therefor biased towards that decision.  Or when you go to the store to get something your conscious mind has already decided that it should purchase that item.  The decision is already made presumably with rational facts to back it up.  And when you’ve already decided you like someone then surely they must be a good person.  Your conscious mind wouldn’t allow you to befriend a bad person.  And you’re a pretty smart cookie so it isn’t likely they could be fooling you into thinking their nice when they aren’t.

Your conscious mind is acting on the principle of confirmation bias.  It will seek out all the facts that justify its position.  Finding facts to support your position is a good thing.  At least it is when you aren’t overlooking facts that suggest you’re wrong.  That’s confirmation bias.  We only accept the facts that confirm our point of view.

Your inner voice is different.  It’s your subconscious mind.  It isn’t interested in right or wrong.  It’s merely going by what history tells it.  It will access all the information pertinent to a decision, whether it confirms a position or not.  It’s noticing all the facts and is seeing something wrong.  So when it’s giving you that off putting feeling about the person you’re talking to it’s because it knows from previous patterns that there’s something wrong with this guy.  It doesn’t care that he “seems nice” or comes off as a “good guy”.  It is picking up on subtle hints that your conscious mind is overlooking that lets it know there’s reason to be concerned.

It’s like your own built-in “spidey sense.”  You just have to tune in to it.  How do you learn to hear your inner voice more clearly?  The same way you hear outer voices better.  You stop and listen.  If you get that tingly feeling at the back of your neck, question why.  If you’re looking at that new TV you wanted and something about it doesn’t feel right, pause a moment and ask yourself “what am I missing?”  And then listen to what your inner voice tells you.  You don’t have to blindly follow everything it says, just give it a chance to be heard.

Another way to hear your inner voice better is similar to what you do when you are trying to listen to music or are on a phone call in a noisy environment.  You change your location to a quieter one.  The way you change to a quieter location in your mind is through meditation.  Breathe in and out slowly and rhythmically, focusing on your breath.  When you feel your body relaxing let your mind relax as well.  As thoughts pop into your head that aren’t related to what you’re trying to figure out just gently release them without judgement.  When your body is relaxed and your mind is calm start asking yourself questions about the area you’re looking for insight into.  Do this often enough and it will become a habit where you can quickly slip into the relaxed and self-aware state.

Like many changes you can make in your life, if you’ve been ignoring your inner voice for a long time it’ll take a while to get back into the habit of listening to it.  But it’s a habit worth spending time on developing.  Your inner voice can be a great and helpful guide if you allow it to be in your life.  As with all things the choice is yours.  Have a nice day.

Goals   Leave a comment

Go on Amazon and do a search for books on financial success and you’ll find books about how to be a millionaire with no cash in your pocket now.  How to create passive income to be a millionaire.  How to invest to become a millionaire.  How to do (fill in the blank) in order to become a millionaire.  It’s as if the only possible way to be a financial success is to be a millionaire.

Or maybe you do a search on getting in shape.  You’ll get page upon page about books that will help you create rock hard abs.  90 days to a six-pack.  Maybe even books on how to create an 8-pack because a 6-pack just isn’t fit enough.  Books on how to create 20 inch biceps with no equipment in your home.  Bodyweight exercise books promising to give you the physique of a champion, the champion being Schwarzenegger.  You’ll get muscles on top of your muscles.

You can even find books on how to super charge your mind.  A book that will teach you how to become a speed reader so you can finish a new book every day.  You might be more partial to books that will teach you another language in 3 months.  How to become a human calculator.

These books all have one thing in common.  They tell you what your goal should be in advance.  There’s a preconceived notion that if you want to improve your health and fitness you must be going for the body of a greek god.  Or if you’re looking for financial success the true and only goal is to become a millionaire.  Unless of course you’re a high performer, in which case you’re shooting straight for billionaire or bust.  When it comes to improving your mind, obviously your brain needs to be able to learn and retain things on a level on par with The Matrix.

These are the goals that society has decided are proper goals for each endeavor.  But they aren’t necessarily your goals.  Don’t get me wrong, these goals are perfectly good goals to have.  That’s if, of course, you want them to be your goals.

Take me for example.  This may come across as financial heresy, but I just don’t want to be a millionaire.  What I want to do with my life doesn’t require me to have that level of cash.  My goal is simple.  I want to be able to get a nice class B RV and spend my life just touring North America.  Who knows, I might even decide to try South America as well.  I don’t need to be a millionaire for that.  I don’t even need to be a quarter millionaire for it.  There’s nothing wrong with my goal.  I’m not aiming low.  I’m not settling.  I just don’t see the need to own a huge mansion with several high-end sports cars out front.  I don’t desire that.

Now for the fitness goals, yeah I’d actually like to have bulging biceps, tremendous traps, and 6-pack abs.  However your goal may be different.  To you, being able to walk upstairs without needing a nap afterwards could be sufficiently fit.  You might not be interested in being able to rip that back of your shirts apart with your super broad lats.  Instead you just want to be able to sit in an airplane seat comfortably for a cross-country flight.

I’d like to learn another langauge or two.  I would definitely love to improve my reading speed so I can take in that many more books.  But I don’t particularly care if I can do Calculus in my head.  To you a great working brain might entail not being foggy all the time.  It might be having the ability to crush anyone in a game of chess.  Or something altogether different from anything I’d imagine.

What’s important to remember in all this is your goals need to be your goals.  Not what society deems proper goals.  If your dream life is to earn $50,000 a year, the fact that other’s might respond “That’s all?” isn’t a negative reflection on your goal.  It just means it clearly isn’t their goal.  Which is fine because they aren’t walking your path, you are.  You don’t need to justify your goals to anyone other than yourself.  If you have buy in on your goals you’ll accomplish them.  That’s why they have to be yours.  Because if you’re chasing society’s goals you just don’t have the buy in, which means you won’t have the success.

Be happy with your goals.  Confident in your goals.  And most importantly, have a steadfast faith that because they are your goals, and you’re truly worthy of attaining them, you’ll reach that destination.  I wish you the best of luck with your goals.  Have a great day.

Posted 10/07/2018 by senso1970 in Uncategorized

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